To forgive or not to forgive - cam girls

The fact he felt comfortable throwing money on camgirls while his own FAMILY was scraping by? I’m sorry but no, i would not feel like I’m worth much in his eyes after that. If you can’t put your own first then what is even the point ? And camgirls is not normal p*rn, it’s interactive so it’s cheating.

I would move on. Being a single mom may be hard but so is being in a relationship where you can’t trust your partner financially.
I’m sure this isn’t something you’re thinking about yet but potentially you could meet a new person who you can trust financially.

To put his family under the proverbial financial bus in the name of sexual gratification…I think it’s the ultimate betrayal of a man to his family. Men usually take pride in providing and protecting. Meanwhile he’s making cam girls rich at the expense of your children. Were you separated, he’d have to pay maintenance. I hope you find the best solution for you and your children.

Forgiveness takes time but just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you need to get back together. You can take the time to forgive what he’s done and come up with a co-parenting plan to try and help your child not feel the way you did growing up. You can also go to therapy to talk about it and come up with a plan together on how you wish to coparent. Hopefully for the sake of his child he will go along with it. Even ask mothers on here with good co-parenting relationships how they navigate that. Now personally I wouldn’t be able to forgive a man that felt comfortable watching me and his child struggle while he paid women to make him feel good. In my opinion if you let things go too much men will take that as a sign to act good for a bit and go back to what they’re doing because they know you will take them back for the sake of the child.

Big no. I wouldn’t forgive

So it seems like he was stressed right before baby came bc a new baby brings new stress, but also more love. He may have been self pacifying his emotions with the cam girls. He should have just drawn more into you mentally, emotionally, and sexually. You are in this together. This little human is depending on the both of you. Very selfish of him to use money that could go towards the little one on his own private satisfaction. You were smart and responsible to conserve extra funds. Coparenting can be beautiful. He has to show up the same as you though. It’s really just a mind thing. If you see holidays as lonely or a drag they will be. Trust me I am notorious for overthinking. It is the killer of peace. Learn emotional intelligence and seeing the glass as half full not half empty. We attract what we visualize in our minds. I suggest marriage counseling bc this will be another hurdle to get over and pay attention to if he is taking accountability and changes.

I would leave and not think about it twice, what a knob teach him a lesson.

Hey I'm so sorry you went through this, it's heartbreaking to experience this especially in a time of need for your family. It's going to feel shitty for a while and like you don't know who he truly is but eventually you will get through it.

Set boundaries with what you want from him, tell him what you need in order to restore trust. Even if you end up breaking up and not forgiving him it's still important to give him a chance to make up and earn redemption (the key is he needs to work really hard for it)

Trust me, leave this man. Find yourself one who wouldn't do this shit to you, trust me this is not normal behavior and it is cheating.