Go for #3?

Looking at the timings you’ve posted you may be okay as sounds like there will be a 9 month gap between your last 2 pregnancies but just to forewarn.. I got pregnant with number 2 6months pp which was planned and our main consideration was ‘can we handle/afford two babies’ and in our case the pros outweighed the cons (I’m done after no.2, don’t like pregnancy and am the main earner so wanted career disruption to happen in one fell swoop). I really really wish I’d researched more into whether my body could cope with another pregnancy so soon - I felt fine, had a mummy MOT, lost the pregnancy weight and felt fighting fit so thought I was golden. Realistically it takes the body a while to replenish vitamins / relaxin stores are still heightened for 9 months plus so I’ve suffered with extreme pelvic girdle pain / abdominal cramping during this pregnancy and have essentially been on house rest since 25 weeks - alongside catching every bug going from my little one who was also a dream baby

But has not been a dream 1 year old… (I love him but tantrums are frequent!!). I’m still looking forward to the other side / it will be worth it in the end but I really wish I’d done more research and given my body the time to heal that it needed.. as I say you’re waiting a little longer and have had two pregnancies already so may not experience the same but please look into close birth complications rather than just considering whether you can handle another child after pregnancy if you haven’t already - just because I really wish I had done so / taken that extra time.. thankfully I’m also very well supported and only have my son to myself maximum 2 days a week but those days are really tough and I’ve still got 6 weeks to go of it getting worse 😭

yes we do so I'm not chasing a certain sex. Even when pregnant on my second, when it was time to pay the embryo storage fees again, I told my husband I didn't feel like our family was done and he agreed so we paid it
I'd love another daughter purely to give my daughter what I've never had - a sister. But also she absolutely adores her brother (we've never had a jealousy issue with them, the first thing she asks in the morning is where is he and he lights up when he sees her) so I don't have a concern if it was a boy.

I've been extremely lucky and aside from bump pregnancy doesn't really affect me, no symptoms at all and lost all the weight within about 15 wks after second. Was a stone lighter going into second pregnancy than first - that stone I blame on the IVF cycle that didn't work. I get the odd cold etc but nothing that someone who isn't pregnant doesn't get.
My worst "issue" post pregnancy is dry hands from all the washing hands after changing nappies, washing bottles etc.

I know how lucky I am regarding the zero pregnancy symptoms!

I had no symptoms in my first pregnancy which is why I didn’t really consider it.. this one has been completely the opposite 😭 I put it down to the super close age gap but who knows really - fingers crossed you escape it a third time if you go ahead!

thanks. I hope I do! But if not at least I know it's definitely the last time....

I know the 2 babies have taken a toll on my relationship with my husband - as normal with kids really, taken a toll on me - not feeling myself, my "life" is now theirs etc, very little to none "me" time, financial...... Weirdly as I write this I think of how most of my concerns are really what we have about becoming parents to begin with!!

Personally, I'm planning to be 2 and done if i get a boy this time.
Everything is more manageable with 2.
My friends have 5 (i know you're only thinking 3) but it's chaos

do you think you would go again if not a boy?
OMG 5!! Although if age, finances, IVF etc were not an issue I actually would not be against it 😂

I used to think 4 would be great but after spending new years with my friends it's too many by yourself. Mind you they did 5 under 7. Now their eldest is 10 and that was chaos

If you've got a nanny, housekeeper or family that can help full time then OK.
2 would be great. But Yes we'll try for a boy.

I'm currently pregnant with no 4 and at birth they will all be under 4. I had twins first so it's only been 3 pregnancies and we wanted them close together and I know it'll be lovely but currently struggling with pregnancy hormones making me grumpy and being exhausted so wondering if this will be a mistake. But I've said to my husband, I'm never doing pregnancy again even if this one miscarries because I can't put them through this again. I don't think this pregnancy has been harder 15 weeks in but it is harder because of having 3 children to run around after