I just want to give up ......

Do you have any family or friends or even a neighbour who could help you out sometimes, anyone who might take him out for an afternoon for a few hours even for a walk or something so you can get a little sleep? Maybe have a serious proper talk with you fiancé about this as it sounds to me this could cause serious issues in your relationship later

Home start - get a volunteer help, just self refer yourself. Think twice if you need to marry him

Darling you need some help! Parenting is hard with support let alone without! You need to talk to your health visitor, or GP and get some help and also you must talk to your fiancée because it is his responsibility to be helping with his child and as you said you! I would definitely try and mak an appointment with your GP, do you think you may be suffering with some Postpartum Depr ssion? Ive been there with my second child, so No judgement here, just concern and would like to help! Where are you based!??? Xx

@Colleen he works days I take care of our son till his home then tell him to but what happens as I'm falling asleep ?? The baby crying for 5 mins him on his computer gamming n only does something or says something when I slam the bottle nipple on the counter (not hard just enough to make a loud sound cuase I'm so exhused and wanted to throw the full bottle at fiance head )

@Katia I'm questioning on why I even said yes

he has 2 other kids he's been a parent before while me a 1st time mom not know what the flying fuck to do, I only started feeling like this over the last week maybe 2 week idk I gave up on trying to keep track cuase I'm not even doing the job I was hired into

He shouldn't play games... Please be single parent, distance from him, let him think twice too if he really loves you he needs to change his behavior and start helping you more... He doesn't value youuch, sorry darling 🥰lots of love, stay strong, stay for yourself and let him value you again

Why do you need to work?

You really need to have a serious discussion with your fiance about him doing his part to look after the baby, I personally wouldn’t be marrying a man that prioritises another married womans emotions and is gaming over his child to me that tells me all I need to know about a man but that’s just me. At the very least I would put a pause on any planning until this was sorted. You should talk to a mental health professional if you have thoughts of leaving your son in a fire house. Of course you’re exhausted your essentially doing this alone and dealing with relationship issues. His precious gaming system wouldn’t last long if it was in my house 😂 again this is just me. My husband became obsessed with an electric lawnmower he got when our son was 3 months old using that instead of helping me he was warned go near it again and next time you come home it will be gone, it’s now gone 😂 and my husband realised I’m not joking around, tell your fiancé to get his act together

@Katia he can't support us on his job he makes less then me

@Colleen I don't know how to be more clear on this where it gets threw his thick skull

If it was me I’d take his gaming set and hide it somewhere he wouldn’t find it while he was at work and when he got home I’d say when you start helping me like you’re supposed too then you can have it back let him scream and shout I wouldn’t care the baby is priority, I know this probably isn’t an option for you but to me he needs a wake up call and some tough love he’s a grown man and should not be wasting time gaming for me this just wouldn’t be good enough and I wouldn’t let it fly so fair play to you for keeping your cool with him, I’d be giving him an ultimatum again I know that may not be an option for you this is just me

@Colleen ill be bitching at him more

@then be on UC, be single parent, enough humiliation from his side towards you, 1st family is not supported, 2nd too... Please choose yourself and the baby not him, he is letting you down, stop working focus on your baby, just start leaving on your own, remove him as an irritating element from your life, put on a distance, why are you sacrificing yourself? How old are you may I ask?please choose yourself And the baby!!! I beg 🙏you

I should atlest have 1 day with no baby inless he has something to do on his days off (Monday n Friday mine are Friday Saturday) so I can sleep for work enough if Friday then some good sleep undisturbed for longer then 3 hours and he gets to sleep at night longer then me since little man sleep from 9 or 10 pm to 5 or 6 am unlike his naps what are 3 hours on a good day he can't see that I'm so exhused barely sleep cuase of little man sleeps 3 hours ( if nothing wakes him) then up for 5 or 6 hours before an other nap

You need to understand it is very Beneficial to him that he is getting lazy, getting money and support from you, sex etc... Please stand for yourself be strong, you can do it!!! lots of ❤Love

1. Serious conversation because what you’re feeling can be detrimental and he’s not understanding or caring about that. Lack of sleep can do crazy things to people.
2. Cut off your WiFi - no wifi no game.
3. Different job not doing overnights. I know that’s easier said than done but YOU are important
4. You’re already a single mom, get rid of him. Get child support and assistance and you’ll be better off than you are now
5. The first time you ask for help and he doesn’t do it pack a bag and stay the night in a hotel. He knows how to parent, he’s just lazy and has you to take over.