Haven't slept

Absolutely! I get maybe 3-4 hrs of sleep each night especially since my husband doesn’t get leave and has a physically demanding job where he operates heavy machinery so it doesn’t feel right asking him to help with overnight feeds. He does handle one evening feed when he gets home. Correction-this is only during the week. On weekends he handles overnight feeds.

My man happily will watch out son after I feed him and have a bottle ready while he plays cod on Xbox while I shower or go to bed early or do anything I want honestly cause it a free pass to play online with the boys for the next 4ish hours and he’ll have the bassinet next to him up in our computer/game room

I know we want to give the man grace because they have to work but we have to remember they made the child too. He should be able to take your child for a couple of hours while you sleep when he has an off day.

Yeah “sleep when the baby sleeps” infuriates me 😅 its also advice that assumes every baby is a first born essentially cuz I can’t just fall asleep when I have a 4 and 5 year old too cook, clean, and care for.

Also, in my opinion, just cuz he works throughout the day doesn’t mean he can’t help at night. Sure he’s gotta be alert and awake for work but your job is just as important, you need to be awake to care for your baby during the day and not a zombie! I would def ask for him to take a whole night duty so you can catch up on sleep and that way he’ll also have so much more respect for how hard what you’re going through really is! Not saying he doesn’t have respect now but it’s so easy to overlook child caring contributions when you never are put in that position to see how it feels