Bad Doctor?
I am 24 weeks pregnant, I previously have an eating disorder for years and I am medicated for my mental health. I am not sensitive or triggered easily either so these are all things to keep in mind going forward into the story. I have seen a PA since I have been pregnant and I absolutely loved her.
My last appointment was to meet the doctor going forward in my pregnancy. She did not ask about my medical or mental history. My mom joked that I used to be 100lbs (two years ago and I am perfectly fine with my mom’s comment). I am now 165lbs and I have gained about 20lbs since I got pregnant.
My issue came when the doctor goes “Woah Slow Down Sister.” She heard the 100lbs comment and didn’t look at my weight when I began my pregnancy which was only a 20lbs difference not a 65lb difference. I understand her confusion, but I couldn’t believe the “slow down sister” comment. My head just fell and I have never felt so exposed and embarrassed. It triggered me that I was crying after the appointment and haven’t stopped thinking about it since.
Has anyone else experienced weight gain during pregnancy after having a ED for years and how have you navigated those thoughts.
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Drop them immediately. Any red flags when it comes to birth are huge no, the littlest issue makes a huge difference when it comes to your birth experience. It only took one rude, dismissive nurse to make my labor much harder than it needed to be.
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Yeah just change your OBGYN if you don’t like them now because you’ll be seeing them a lot and if they are getting on your nerves now then you shouldn’t stay, your paying for your services it’s not fair for them to have I’ll bed side manners and make stupid comments they should be aware of what’s acceptable and what not appropriate and considering you had or have ED even if you didn’t since when were women ever considered to be confident about weight, well some might be but that’s not the majority of women and also being pregnant having all these emotions and extra hormones the last thing we want is to feel insecure and embarrassed, we want to feel loved and respected and cared for by a Dr. That understands us better and or takes the time to get to know us better and ask questions to figure out about our past and helping us with our future. Ps: your feeling matter girl !!!!!