Friends wedding abroad

Hi all. I know this is FTM... But really need advice. I am currently pregnant with baby #2. Only 8 weeks. I didn't want to tell anyone yet, my partner and boss knows (needed for risk assessment reasons annoyingly). My friend is getting married in a remote part of Spain in ~3 months. I've already had a few minor complications, pain, bleeding, vanishing twin... I got preeclampsia last pregnancy and a terrible birth.
I am pretty sure I don't feel comfortable flying and then travelling out to a remote part of Spain during pregnancy. It will just be me and my toddler. I know it's overcautious but I just don't feel comfortable. I'm not even sure if I am going to be classified as high risk pregnancy or not.
How do I handle this? I need to tell her ASAP, but I didn't really want to tell anyone yet as doc told me miscarriage risk is a bit increased with vanishing twin. Any ideas?

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Its in 3 months, I think you should at least wait until 12 weeks to let her know x if you’re not comfortable going deffo don’t go, if she’s a good friend she’d deffo understand

Just tell her the whole situation, if she’s a good friend she’ll understand

Thank you; think I'm going to have to bite the bullet and tell her sooner rather than later, as she's then got three months notice to change anything wedding wise!

Im sorry for you twin. Tell her you are telling her in confidence not to tell anyone as you are worried and don't want people knowing yet. I would assume you will be classed as a high risk with previous preaclampsia my friend was with her second and had a list of things to avoid. Agree with above if she is a really friend she will understand she might be sad that you can't make it but yours and baby's health come first xx

As people have mentioned above if she’s a good friend let her know your concerns & to keep it between you both maybe invite her for brunch & celebrate her a little away from the wedding chaos she’s probably got lots to talk about too
Hopefully everything will work out for you both & you’ll be laughing about it all in a few years time

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