Do you use condoms with your partner when having sex or no?

I’m currently in a FWB (friends with benefits) relationship with a guy. He doesn’t like using condoms.

Most guys don’t like using them.

So I just take pills.

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They do the Pull Out Method. Or they ejaculate inside and expect you to take the plan B

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Using condoms atm because I don’t want to go back in the pill yet

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We use condoms! I don't like any birth control options for me and luckily my fiancé understands that, he's on a waiting list for a vasectomy now😌

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I've got the implant, but if I wasn't in a serious committed relationship then he will 100% be wearing a condom or going elsewhere.

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I’m sorry but why are you giving the man the authority to say whether or not he wants to use a condom?

It’s not about if they like them or not. Most people prefer sex without condoms but they are there for 1) sexual safety (STIs) and 2) prevent pregnancy.

If you’re happy to keep taking the chance and taking pills then that’s your prerogative, but if you want to use a condom then you need to insist on it.

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Only because I'm 4m pp and haven't sorted anything else out yet

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No, but my tubes are tied. Before that I used an IUD and didn't use them then either.

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this! Before being with my current (exclusive long term) partner I would straight up refuse to sleep with someone if they did not wear a condom. OP, you do know the plan B doesn’t work to prevent pregnancy if you’ve already ovulated? And also if it’s just a FWB you can’t be sure they aren’t sleeping around elsewhere and contracting STIs. Use the condom.

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Bet he wouldn't like the 2 hourly wake up calls of a new born or an itchy oozy penis when he catches something. I wonder how many friends with benefits he doesn't use a condom with

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What about sexually transmitted diseases though?

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he said he doesn’t have std. I got tested too 3 weeks after and tests came back negative so he was right.

I still agree with everyone it’s a risky thing

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dude tell him to wear a condom or find a diff fwb

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With respect, some STIs can take a while to show up on tests. Did he show proof of a negative test result or are you just taking his word?

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Umhhhhhh….

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You need to be careful girl. I had an ex boyfriend who gave me HPV! And we were using condoms ! That shit took months to go away so just be careful and make sure you get your daily Pap smear done. Before my husband I always used to be on the pill. AND make them wear a condom! Cause I didn’t want to take any chances. I feel like a fwb situation they should not have the leeway of no condoms that’s too risky. It’s not worth it if you’re not even in a committed relationship with them and you catch something or get pregnant

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Literally always unless we’re ttc or I’m pregnant

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I hate sex with condoms too. But I don't want any more kids so we'll be using them until I get a IUD

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You said partner, no condoms Ofcs cause we’re in a committed relationship and are fine with any “consequences “ that may happen. BUT a FWB should def wear a condom with. There’s no commitment and what would be worse is being forced into a commitment by having a child together cause then together or not yall have to work together to take care of said child and raise them in a broken home if you guys aren’t together . That’s not ideal for the child

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We use pull out combined with fertility awareness method (FAM) which is great as I don't have to take anything with hormones

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the pill does not protect you from stds/stis. if it’s a casual sex relationship and he’s with other people yall definitely need to use condoms. and if he’s not okay with that then maybe you shouldn’t be having sex with him

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We don’t but I’ve been with the same man for the past 17 years. If I had a situation like yours, I would definitely use protection. The risk of getting prego is way too high. Don’t let them bust inside of you and get the plan b. That messes up your hormones like crazy. That should be a last resort type thing. Do what you need to do as a woman to protect yourself. Especially because he is a friend with benefits.

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The pill doesn't protect you from STIs though, only pregnancy!

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We don't but we've been together for 13 years (since we were 17/18) and get married next week.

If it was a FWB situation, they wouldn't be coming near me without a condom on

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Sadly, this is what leads to broken families with innocent children at the centre of it all...temporary, loveless relationships...

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My partener.. as in my husband no. No i dont.

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I’d definitely advise using a condom. Not just to protect against unwanted pregnancy but STIs. He could have a similar agreement with other friends…

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