Is it inappropriate to be intimate with partner whilst baby is sleeping in the same room?

And If not - at what point does it become weird?

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Same here, for me the point it becomes weird is called always

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I’ve been wonder that! We only get to be intimate when someone is watching him

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For me yes it’s inappropriate and it gives me the ick. Could not get in the mood with our daughter in the same room.

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Wtf it’s crazy so many people are saying no. If the baby is asleep just go to the other room and do the deed and come back. 🤣 You will hear them crying if they need you. I would rather be in the other room when they wake up than in an inappropriate position right in front of them. Feels so dirty and creepy.

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As someone who was that ‘baby’ in the same room, I remember and it still haunts me. I was 4 so probably too old for my parents to be doing the deed with me in the bed but it definitely is a core memory from the age of 4! I say just go somewhere else in the home

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IN THE BED?!!! Nahhhh that’s messed up omg. I’m so sorry

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I don’t even like when my dog is in the room during it🤣

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Disgusted by the amount of “no” votes.

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i mean.. like 3 months?? probably not a big deal. but like nearing year?? weird. older than a year?? absolutely not. i would just go have couch sex or use your guest room tho. but its personal choice, do you feel uncomfortable? then dont do it.

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If they are woke and watching its weird

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the dog…….really weird compared to a sleeping infant

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I think its weird once the baby isnt a newborn, like a 4/5mo when they are really aware, and depending on the size of the room and if bby is in the bed also.. bc thats a no. And my baby was far far around a corner from our bed so he couldnt see or hear. But next to us wouldve been awkward..

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Easy enough to just do it in another room.

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It is weird but where do you do it when you have baby, teenagers and no guest bedrooms 😩 literally nowhere is safe

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Thanks so much for everyone’s votes and comments, it definitely seems to be a heated debate! The reason I ask is because I was always under the impression that it was weird, (no judgements either way) but when I googled it, I’m getting lots of information from doctors, et cetera saying that it’s fine and it’s completely normal? But then this raises the question to me that having sex in front of children are doing sexual act in front of them is illegal. So at what point does it become illegal?

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girl this is like… illegal and i would argue a form of abuse. nowhere near the same as an actual baby. i’m sorry this happened to you.

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I feel like the age of the baby is the biggest factor

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I just want to remind everyone that even if your baby is asleep they can still be aware of their surroundings and their senses can still pick up on certain things. The same way you can sleep lighter or deeper than normal at times. There’s 0 reason to have sex with the baby in the room. If you’re in a position where your bed is the only place to do anything and the baby cannot go anywhere else then it’s my opinion that you’re just out of luck.
The age of the child does play a factor but honestly at any age is gross to me. It is selfish to risk traumatizing your child in a way they will never be able to get to the root of just because you cannot go without for however long they’re in your room for. I’ve seen some of you on other posts say you’ve done it with your 18-4 year olds in the room or even in the bed with you and you should all be absolutely disgusted and ashamed of yourselves. Seriously

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I’m saying if I wouldn’t do it front of my dog why would I do it with my child in the room? 🙄

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To each their own but I can't do it. My husband and I tried to have sex with our baby was sleeping in the bassinet. I looked over at my sleeping baby one time and dried right up. I just couldn't get in the mood seeing a baby laying there lol

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Never did never would

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