Early Misscarriage

Yesterday was probably one of the hardest days I've ever gone through in a long time. After a week of light bleeding and seeing my family doctor , I woke from trying to get my 10 month old daughter down to sleep with severe cramps, heavy bleeding and clotting. My fiance rushed me to Humber River Hospital and waited in Emerg. for 4 hrs to see a doctor... they did bloodwork and a ultrasound. I would have been 7 week pregnant as of yesterday but the ultrasound was reading 5 weeks and 2 days. Doctors said the embryo had stopped growing and my body was definitely showing signs of me having a miscarriage. Im feeling lost and heartbroken and Today I've been home still in pain, still cramping and bleeding. If anyone has any advice or kind thoughts to help me get through this difficult time , I'd greatly appreciate it.

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So sorry to hear this. I honestly feel your pain. It’s so hard to process it, as it all happens at once but honestly you’ll get through it . You tend to question why constantly etc but everything will be fine. I went through a miscarriage also. I started bleeding at home so I went to the hospital and the fetus came out when I was there . I was so upset and angry but I was told by the consultant that you’ll have a better chance of having a full term baby next time . Maybe this time it wasn’t your time to have that baby but honestly next time you’ll get that full term baby you deserve . I see life as …’if it’s meant to be then it will happen’ . Stay strong x

No advice but I'm so sorry you are going through this sending love, give your 10 month old extra snuggles x

Sending you a huge hug 🩷 I’m sorry for your loss mama 🤍

I'm so sorry to hear this. We suffered a miscarriage in September 2023 and also bled (at work) so headed to A&E to be told everything was fine and they'd scan me the next day. We then found out our baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks (I was 10 weeks, 5 days at the time).
Be gentle with yourself and allow all the time you need to heal. There is no time frame on grief so be kind to yourself, look after each other and don't rush your recovery (mentally or physically).
There are lots of charities in England who support Mum's who lost babies so please reach out to any charities you have there if you need any support.
If you need anyone to talk to in the meantime, my inbox is always open xx

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I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

It’s my birthday tomorrow.

Ok so I am going to be 35 years young. I can’t believe how much this life has thrown at me but it’s okay I’m a survivor. I am truly blessed to be alive. 🥳🧁🎂 The only downside is I won’t be celebrating my birthday because my man can’t take me out. So many emotions right now.