Sex during pregnancy

I dont know if this is allowed (sex talk?) but I’m almost 19 weeks and my husband and i haven’t had sex since i got pregnant. We’re both worried something will happen but obviously want to stay intimate. I’m in my mid 30s so I’m considered “high risk” but So far i don’t have any issues in my journey so i believe it’s safe but still just worried to try. Anyone felt this way, have advice?

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It is safe. My husband was very worried so we only had sex twice during my pregnancy. But i would recommend doing it now because you don’t know what kind of baby you’ll get. And ours has to be held 24/7 so we’ve only had sex twice in the 4 months he’s been born.

I had sex every day twice a day up until I popped, I can’t NOT have sex my drive was through the roof I couldn’t keep my hands off him lol, and I was mid-30’s too when I had my last baby they didn’t call me high risk though, I was actually low risk. So yeah, unless you are put on bed rest any other normal pregnancy you can have sex. Lots of it. If you wanted.

It's fine ....just use lube and be gentle as your cervix are a lot more sensitive and it can cause bleeding 🩸

It’s healthy & can even help contribute to a healthy pregnancy and labour. My midwife told me to have as much as I could/wanted to get all the happy hormones flowing

It’s totally safe! Don’t worry.

It is safe now, and recommend for the last month 🤭🤭it helps open the the tunnel for baby to get out of you quickly and easily 😁

As long as the pregnancy is straightforward just do it, some of the best sex me and my husband have had was in the 2nd trimester, higher blood flow and more sensitive, no harm in giving it a try and see how comfortable you both feel x

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