I'm panicking!

So I currently have a 10 month old and I'm 30 weeks pregnant. My daughter will turn 1 a week or so before the next Baby is born.
Does anyone have experience of a 12 month age gap and give Mr any advice?
We are currently going through a tricky night sleep phase so I am bloody exhausted and overthinking things a lot!

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I’m going to have a 19 month age gap, so completely different still! But my friend has an 11 month gap and she’s just told me to be patient with my elder one. Remember how young they still are and don’t expect too much from them! They’re still babies their self 🥹🥹

I have a 22 month age gap but he’s getting tested for autism so he really doesn’t communicate or understand a lot tbh. All I say is if they’re both crying go to the eldest and patience is key it’s definitely chaotic but my little girl is 9 weeks now and I kinda just accept the chaos or else I think I’d have a breakdown😂 he’s recently started hugging her which is progress because for the first 2/3 weeks he just kept trying to throw stuff at her🤦‍♀️ it is hard I won’t lie but it’s definitely gotten easier

Congratulations! I have a February 7th, 2024 & February 24th, 2025 baby!

I was both excited and nervous, but it's honestly been much better than I had been stressing about. Try not to over think things, or stress too much on how it should be.

One thing I highly recommend is working on GENTLE/EASY/SOFT as soon as possible.

I have a 14 month gap (only just, my little girl was 14 months the day my son was born 😅) he is only 13 days old but so far it has been a lot easier than I expected and found I was doing a lot of panicking whilst pregnant for no reason. He really has just slipped into place, I can’t remember him not being there. It helps that my little girl is obsessed with him and wants to give him kisses constantly. The biggest challenge I have found so far is the 14 month old wanting picking up or to sit on me whilst im holding the baby or feeding the baby so I can’t pick her up. My advice that I have been doing, is try to spend 1 on 1 time with the eldest everyday. I put my little girl to bed everyday while baby is downstairs and I try to put baby down every couple of hours and spend 15 mins playing with her so she has my undivided attention. But like I say please don’t stress as he really has slipped into place and it has been so easy the 2 of them. Wishing you all the luck 🥰❤️

I have a 13 month age gap with twins 😭 honestly it’s a learning experience type of thing.

11 month age gap here!
You'll manage, honestly no amount of advise could be given to you, it just seems to happen! Give yourself time to adjust, don't stress about housework when new baby is here, focus on you and the littles! I always thought being pregnant with a baby was much harder than actually having the 2!
Good luck! X

We have a 12 month age gap between our son and daughter. It’s definitely chaotic and it worked best for us to move our son into his own room and our daughter is in our room in the bassinet. Otherwise they would wake each other up all night long! Honestly tho, that age gap is awesome!

wow our kids are almost exactly the same! We have a Feb 1st 24 and a Feb 27th 2025!

I've got a 14-month age gap. My advice, sort your eldest first. It won't hurt the baby to cry but your toddler might climb etc and need you more. Plus it helps avoid jealousy etc. Also, get your toddler to help with little things if the understanding is there, 'Get mummy a nappy, put this in the bin' etc. It still has its crazy moments where both baby and toddler need you but honestly deal with one child at a time and you'll be fine. Both mines have dummies and it's such a blessing when they are both crying as the dummy settles the baby while I deal with the toddler. My biggest struggles - are toddler is a little heavy-handed with the baby and as she's learning to manage her emotions she's having tantrums. I always worried about the toddler but it seems the baby is struggling more. If she falls asleep then my toddler will make too much noise and wake her up but that's to be expected when with baby is in the same room as us during the day. X

I have 11 month age gap.
I don’t think anyone can give you the advice you will need 😂

I thought it was going to be a lot harder than it was but I just got used to it so quick. It’s hard at times, but then again it would be at any age I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and ask for help if you need it x

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