How soon do you respond to birthday invites?

Nope some people take ages to respond, some don't even bother to respond if they can't make it! It's super rude in my opinion to not respond at all. I understand sometimes you don't know plans/ work schedules etc but again i think if that is the case a quick text to say doesn't hurt. I'm trying to hold out sending the invites for an end of July party till mid June as it just stresses me out the lack of replies lol!

I sometimes reply straight away but normally takes me a couple of days as we have clashes. We hosted my 1yo party at the weekend and some people took over a week

Monday, as in yesterday? Or last week?

If it was just yesterday, I wouldn't worry. Do you have an app for nursery? Parents at my sons nursery put a big invite up on the app and parents just replied through there xx

It’s been a week since giving out ours and we have only had one reply out of 12!

Does your nursery have a Facebook page? Previously, I have just posted a picture of the invite & said that I have handed out to friends, could you please get back to me asap. This usually gives them a little reminder because some people just forget. I usually respond as soon as I get it because I know if I don’t, I will forget, unless I see a post on the closed FB page. xx

I always reply straight away purely because if I don’t I know I will forget but when I did my son’s invites some people took ages to reply so wouldn’t worry too much. Some kids might not go to nursery every day so their parents haven’t checked their bags yet.

So she goes to 2 settings we've done 10 from each, so I can't really chase on 1 od the servings fb groups as half the class haven't been invited (yet) reserves as a just incase, awful I know but you have to!

I was just worried that because the nursery worker handed them to the kids, have the A, made the invites into the bag and B, will the parent check the bags it's often I don't check mine for ages!

If they've got til end of June to reply, unless I already knew the parents or kids were best friends, I probably wouldn't reply until sometime in June. They may be checking their calendars / seeing if others are going / etc. You should be able to ask the staff to check with relevant parents that they were received at pick up times. Or mention to parents if you see them at drop off / pick up times too.
Also in our experience you may not get that great a turn out from nurseries for kids of parents you don't know.

Usually when the party parent messages me to ask if I’m coming or not 😂😂 I always have the best intentions of replying as soon as I get it but nearly always forget 😂🤦‍♀️

@Terri oh gosh!! Have you had any more since? We've had 3 out if about 20 so far. What will you do if you haven't heard of the majority??

No no one! I’ll prob wait until nearer the time I needed a rsvp then drop them a note to see if they have received invitation. I’ll prob have to ask nursery to help as I don’t have all contact details

Have you had more replies? We handed 15 out yesterday and only had 1 reply. Will chase via the app in 2wks tho (I’m only expecting for 5-6 kids to reply though… it’s the holiday season…)

I've had 12 people confirm now but that's out of about 20 odd ! Some i don't have contact details for either to chase but I do have a reserves list incase I don't hear back or people can't make it. It's brutal isn't it

It’s rude … but I have taken some time to reply in the past so I guess I’m guilty of it too. 12 is a good number though! Yes I only have like 5/20 of their numbers…

I agree it is rude. Like it's essentially free entertainment for your child. If you can't make it just say that's totally fine, it's those that give nothing back at all yet we've attended their kids parties so they know the drill themselves! I was hoping for more responses on Friday just gone when they broke up for half term and parents check bags etc and find the invites, had a few but still not many. When's your rsvp?

I was at a party the other week where a few people turned up who hadn't even responded, luckily there were a couple of no shows so numbers were fine and the host even said one of the people that showed up had a party theme selves the other week which gave a date to rsvp by so no excuse really, they knew the drill!

End of June . But we picked a church hall for that reason so not a cost per person but I kind of want to get party bags sorted earlier etc I hve no idea how I’d do it if there was a fixed cost per child like in soft play etc

Yeah ours is in a soft play so we're paying per head. If people turn up who haven't responded I'm really going to be annoyed. It doesn't take much. I have no idea what happens if they turn up and they're not on the list. Is that my problem tho 😂

I’d literally ask them to pay… it’s super expensive! We all know the rules and the costs. I’d say “oh o was not expecting you, I’m so sorry but I think the venue X can accommodate you if you settle at the cash desk…” 🤷🏽

hey, have you had any responses yet!?

Just 3! Nursery are going to nudge the remaining ones for me