Vulnerable post but here we go…

I broke down today because I feel so lonely here. We moved in February and we don’t know anyone. I’m a sahm to my 2 year old. I told my husband that I miss home, I miss my friends, I miss my job I miss my life back there. I’ve been to story time at the library and been met with lukewarm at best responses from others, we have been to dance classes but cliques are already formed and it’s hard to make inroads. I’ve reached out on here a fair amount and it rarely (not never) amounts to anything. I just feel a bit sad really. Perhaps it is because I’m older (42) or because I’m not part of the church or maybe I give off a vibe I don’t know. I get that this post is full of self pity (not a pretty quality to display) I’m just desperately sad. Why is it so hard to make friends as adults?

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Me too I’m down for meet ups I don’t have any friends

you too lol

I get it. We have lived here for 7 years and i only now feel like i have some friends and the beginnings of a community. I miss where we used to live and I don’t like Utah much. I made a great mom friend on Peanut a few years ago but she moved back to their home state. I’m finally making some mom friends through my daughter’s dance class and playgrounds now that she is getting older but it took years. It’s so hard to find the time and energy to form new relationships, I tend to just put my energy towards my long distance friendships.

I hear you, unfortunately we moved 15 time zones so it’s hard being real time friends with the ones I left behind. I doubt we’ll be here 7 years but I can just keep trying and fingers crossed…

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Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

If you DO NOT buy things second hand, it is mainly because:

Answer only if it applies to you.

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.