I go back to work next week and have so many calls to make appts to try sort out/ housework/washing you name it, my partner gets it easy goes work first thing in morning and comes home yes he makes dinner but have to ask him to help me tidy or take some pressure off me with baby/he never offers to take some jobs out of my hands I am so overwhelmed I cried to him today and his mum (my MIL) keeps at me wanting to come round 3/4 times a week so I have to keep the house tidy always. Am I being dramatic? Just feel overloaded and overwhelmed
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If his mother wants to see the kids 3/4 times a week, can’t she come to you? And maybe do a bit of laundry or hoovering while she’s there?
Obviously, the first choice would be for your husband to pull his weight. But if she’s so keen to see the kids, she can fucking help out a bit too!

If she's round so much I'd ask her to help do the housework as she's practically moved in!
It sounds tough, its rough. What will the dynamic be like when you're back at work? With little one and then dinner and house chores etc? X

in the post she says the MIL is coming to her and that’s why she has to keep the house tidy. But I agree with you she should definitely be helping
Original poster, you’re better than me because I wouldn’t be having nobody in my house 3/4 times a week, she can help or if she wants to see them so badly she can take them out and give you an actual break or a free mind to be able to have a little tidy around

Stop doing his stuff. He can do his own laundry and dishes if he wants to be stinky like that. Have a talk with him first and let him know you really need him to pull his weight.

I’d be telling him he needs to be helping out and doing equal amounts of housework (if he doesn’t stop doing his washing etc) and then you need to set boundaries with your MIL that she comes over twice a week for example