Does your partner put the toilet seat down?

(For those who have a male partner, whether it be a husband or boyfriend.)

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It's really frustrating I even mentioned about E.coli etc .... it gos over his head....Also finishes the toilet roll...
Doesn't replace....

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My hubby said that im fully capable of putting it down, so the only time it's down after he goes is if he shits.. he uses so much to when he does tho so even if I leave like 10 squares on the roll he gets mad that I didn't change it...

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For those who clicked Yes/Always — how did you train them 😂😭💀

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Yes, but our toilet is off our kitchen and therefore I hate like seeing straight down the toilet when I’m cooking food lol

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mine is the only boy with 4 sisters so luckily came fully trained 😂

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He does because he actually sits down at home. He only pees standing up if he’s like in a public restroom

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Mine doesn't even lift the seat.. so I end up sitting on pee every damn time! At this point I'd rather him lift the seat and leave it up!

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tell him to sit down when he’s at home 😌 he grew up around mostly women lol so he grew up sitting down that’s just how his mom taught him

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It's never up. We sit to pee.

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He never puts the toilet seat up and not once in the entire time ove known him has he peed on the seat or the floor.

He never puts the lid down though which is more annoying now because my daughter can walk and she loves water

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my husband sits when he pees so we don't have this issue 😅

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Doesn’t lift it so don’t have the issue

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No but it doesn’t bother me so I’ve never asked him to

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My husband sits at home to pee. It’s appreciated

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Absolutely you are fully capable of putting it down. As he's fully capable of respecting you and keep the toilet clean, difference is you do it he doesn't

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I have a sitter, thankfully.

I’ve noticed when we have male visitors they forget to put the seat down and around the toilet starts smelling of urine?, 🤮

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He's an adult who is mindful of other people in the house, he didn't need to be taught to put the seat down....that's just basic courtesy.

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Mine even closes the lid and changes the toilet paper whenever it runs out. No training required lol

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When I was like 4 someone came to the house, peeped, didn't put the seat down (there were 3 bathrooms in the house). I went into that bathroom in the middle of the night without the light on, fell in and my aunt had to come get me out when she heard a little cry 🤣

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For the LONGEST time I didn’t think he even lifted the seat but then we got comfortable and I started hanging with him while he pees. He not only puts it down EVERYTIME he wipes under it to make sure no wet anything. And he wipes (dabs) himself so no gross undies. His grandma did a hell of a job raising him

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Both the seat and cover!

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same with my husband.

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My boyfriend closes the whole top just in case the baby sneaks into the bathroom

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Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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