my LO who is currently 22 months, for the last 3 weeks have been a nightmare at bedtime.
we have always had a routine, and it’s been working up until 3 weeks ago.
My little girl now refuses to go to bed, even though she’s fighting sleep. As soon as I lay her down in her cot, she starts uncontrollably crying, trying to band her head on the cot, until I pick her back up. She have also started waking up in the middle of the night, and as soon as she realises she’s in her own room she screams, as soon as she’s in my bed it stops and she falls straight back to sleep. I don’t know what to do, I currently feel like the worst mum, and have no idea what’s changed or how to get things better. Thank you x
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Hello hun, it will change back just let her be

I'm the same with my little bot 4 weeks now screams non stop I've been trying to let him cry it out I go in every 15 minutes so he knows I'm close but if it gets to an hr he goes in bed with me until he's sleeping then back in his cot

Oh god I feel for you! It’s coming up to 3 months for us now. Completely random one night, when prior to this she’d settle herself to sleep in her cot and would sleep through.
We have now changed to a floor bed which has helped us maximise our sleep, before we were sat on the floor with our hands through the bars of the cot 😭 this past week or so we’ve changed her nap times to 12.30-1.30 which has brought bed time back down to 7pm. She was napping (and has done for such a long time) from 12-2.30 which worked well… however it doesn’t any more, and we’ve had such a lot of late nights!! So for us, capping her nap right down to an hour has helped. This all goes out the window when she’s at nursery three days per week 🫠
We have been sleeping in with her as she was waking during the night, realised we weren’t there and would scream the house down 😭
We are going to start sneaking out, I’m hoping now she’s comfortable on the floor bed, the night wakes won’t happen 😬

I have let my daughter cry it out twice, but the crying drives me insane, and I feel like the worst mum in the world. Xx

what was it like transferring to a cot bed rather than the cot? I have thought about changing mine now because she try’s to climb out of the cot and I don’t want her to hurt herself.
I have tried letting her cry it out, it’s just a nightmare at the moment.
I did let her sleep in my bed over the weekend because I have been so worn out and wanted a hour, but because I have never co slept, I couldn’t sleep anyway. I had my HV out this morning and she have recommended a few things, so going to try that. But I just feel at a end and don’t know what to do xx

@Amy it makes me feel bad too I hate it

it went a lot smoother than we had thought it would! Although we have gone for a small double floor bed with sides which means we can lay next to her whilst she settles to sleep. We were going to change her cot for a cot bed but wasn’t sure how this would work, especially as we’ve had to sleep in with her. Plus she is such a fidget so she would have fallen out.
We tried letting her cry it out the first few nights but after 15 mins I had to go back in as I can’t bring myself to do it to her.
We have never co slept before this either and I’m not going to lie, it has taken some getting used to! But like everything, I keep telling myself it’s just a phase and won’t last for ever 🥴
I know how difficult it is, but you’re not on your own! 🧡 I hope you manage to figure things out soon and you manage to get some decent sleep! Xx

I literally could of wrote this 😭 the last 3/4 months have been hell! He’s not settling at night and waking 2/3 times in the night to the point I just end up staying in his bed with him because I know he will just get up again! I’ve tried giving him earlier naps to see if that helps but he starts nursery soon and thats all out the window! He wakes the same exact times every night too! I know between 10 and 11 he will wake up (I’m in with him now) I’ll leave and he will be back up in a few hours and I just cave and sleep with him as I’m so tired.
I honestly don’t see an end to this it’s been months and months! He won’t settle with dad either so I’m just stuck😒

Okie I finally figured it out I tried to transfer to a toddler /cot bed and it worked my boy is finally sleeping again after 5 mins maybe he felt stuck in his bed

I transferred my daughter into a toddler bed and she’s finally sleeping better too, we still have some tears when it comes to bedtime but much better than it was. Xx

Did this eventually stop for you all? Currently going through this 😩