How did you cope with your old life and freedom being gone?? Everyone says that they can’t imagine their life without kids, but it’s been 4 years and I still remember how my life used to be? I feel like that loss of freedom is what is…

I’m obsessed with motherhood but I do sometimes miss my old life and freedom I had to do what I wanted when I wanted and say yes to pretty much every invitation that came my way.
I would start planning. Plan fun things you want to do for your child in the next month, 6 months, year. Plan holidays and think about what traditions you want to start.
Then plan for yourself. What is something you can do just for you? Can you plan an event with friends, big or small and plan for childcare?
Sometimes just going to happy hour with my co-workers makes me feel like I’m not only a mom, I’m an adult human.

this is such good advice because I often feel restless if I don’t have something to look forward to in the future. I try to get us out of the house for most days and that seems to help keep my mind in the now or future vs the past.

Yeah I have a lot of these moments too. I love being able to do things with my daughter but there are times where I'm like damn life used to be so simple! If you have it, I'd say definitely lean into your support system to still enjoy some of the things from your past and make time for yourself. I love what Dana said also about planning things out with your child to enjoy motherhood as well

to be fair i didn’t have much of a social life pre baby, but i do miss spending unlimited time with my partner and doing whatever the f we wanted. it’s hard sometimes but i just remind myself that im a person outside of motherhood, that i have to accept where i am in life and accept that literally everything is temporary. making time for myself that is solely for me has made things a lot better

I recently started to discuss with my husband that we should try 1 new park at the beginning of every month, go 2hrs away or something like that. Maybe go to a new restaurant or pack some food.

I voted obsessed with motherhood. I’m 35 year old women that has lived fully. I’ve done my travels, partying, full of shameful “wish I didn’t do that and just went home” moments. Haha
I sit at home thinking, I love this relaxing life wish I stayed home a bit more in my 20’s maybe I would’ve saved more money.
Idk, now I feel like I’m in a different life.
I feel secure and loved more in this life than in my freedom life (20’s). I was so lonely but cozy. 😂😆 and tad bored.

Incorporate your old life, your identity, into motherhood. I still see friends I still have hobbies I still go clubbing (but the clubs I choose now are not the same ones I chose back then, and I’m dancing salsa/bachata/kizomba now) I still have events I go to w my gfs. What did you use to do that you miss so much, incorporate that so it’s not fully gone and you are still enjoying life outside of motherhood because motherhood and being a Mum is not all that I am, I am still Kellie at the heart of myself and Kellie still likes to dance and see friends and go to events lol. I mother 14hrs a day 365 days a year lol, being myself on a Friday or Saturday night keeps me true to myself and that’s 1% of the time. My gfs and I are going to the “mind spirit body” expo next month and that’s our kid free day and we’re all looking forward to it. If I wanna go to a Latin festival we pack up the baby/toddler and bring him w us 😂 Enjoy motherhood, but enjoy life too. It’s still healthy to have outlets

I don’t want to go back to my old life. It was great and fun but that’s not who I am anymore. Change is good! Find some mom friends to hang out with or without kids. Find some hobbies. I’m still working on my self care and haven’t gotten there yet but I will eventually because I know it’s important.

Being a mother has made me a better person. Forced me to become more organized and clean. Still slowly learning about it but I am evolving! Also, still friends with my 3 best friends from college

Being a mom has become my whole personality unfortunately

we go on little cheap overnight trips. So worth it

I love this idea!

I never missed my old life, but I was very angry about the inequality in my relationships.

I agree with the first comment, I do miss my old life at times but I'm pregnant with my 2nd now and having fun things planned with our 2 and a half year old is lovely, we've been abroad on holiday 4 times with her to. Especially with it being summer now where I am it's so much easier to get out and about and do things.

I do miss my old life and being able to do whatever whenever and leave the house without a million things lol but I love all these great memories we’re making and it’s hard but so rewarding - it took me about a year to get used to it but that doesn’t mean we can’t think about our old life and how much easier it was! Especially when the children are being little shits 🤣

Me and my husband make sure we both have a day to ourselves every now and then & have date nights to ourselves :) a lot of people say going from 1 to 2 is easier because your life had already drastically changed from having the first so now it’s similar but you just have more lol