Cleaning

Anyone else extremely cleaning… I just mopped my walls, sweep and mopped my floors and vacuum all rooms. I dusted all pictures and lamps. One bathroom is clean and I’m getting ready to do the other. My oldest room needs to be picked up again because he got all his toys back out after I vacuumed. I also want to get the windows done tonight but it sounds like it might rain so I’m holding off for now.

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Stubborn husband

Hi! I’m a new mum to a 5 week old baby boy and there is zero routine!
My husband is so good at helping me despite being at work full time. He still does at-least 50% of the housework and cooking and gets up once in the night to feed the baby.
I do the other 50% and then look after the baby during the day and do all bar the 1 night feed.
Whenever I get overwhelmed my husband steps in and will take the baby - however, whenever he’s clearly overwhelmed he will not give me the baby!
Last night for example, the baby woke up at 4:30, my husband got him back to sleep, 35 mins later he woke up, my husband insisted it was his turn so went to put him back to bed, he got him back to sleep at 6, put the baby back in bed and he started to wake up straight away - each time he came back in the room I could just tell he was getting more stressed out but he would not take my offer to swap, despite the fact he needed to be up and getting ready for work by 7:30 and had been up settling him for over 2 hours.
I think he just wants to do an amazing job, which is lovely, but how do i make sure he’s willing to accept my help? Did anyone else’s husband/partner react to having a newborn like this?
He massively struggles with change and has dealt with depression previously so I worry about how having a newborn who is so unpredictable is effecting him.
Tia x

Is there a trick to eating your food without your toddler trying to steal it?

I swear, I’d enjoy hanging out with my toddler more if I wasn’t always starving and waiting for her to have a nap before I can eat in peace 😅 obviously it’d be ideal if I made a lunch we could share, but sometimes life doesn’t go that way! For example, today I had leftover fajitas with spicy wraps. I couldn’t even give her a wrap with some guacamole because the wraps had chili in them. I ended up crouching behind the kitchen counter and shoving one in my mouth so I could cope with the next hour before naptime 😆

Is there an easier way, or is this just my life now?

Advice? Am I overreacting?

My husband and I have been going through a lot lately even before having our baby. And now thinking about it I don’t think we were ever compatible. He’s the kind of person that will stay silent during chaos and I am not like that, I would rather talk it through to solve the issue. We have been having a lot of fights lately. And recently, we had another fight and he called the police on me and I got arrested. (Mind you I had never called the cops on him and never was I willing to.) I was willing to forgive him after I came home then found out that he was playing video games with his friends the day and night of my arrest. I felt hurt and betrayed. He never checked up on me after I got arrested and was cold when I reached out. I asked for a divorce. We have a baby together and I feel like a bad mom because I promised myself that I will raise my baby in a 2 parents household and married. I feel so sad that I am doing this to my baby but at the same time I am even more sad that my husband betrayed me like this. We could’ve solved our differences at home no matter what I did I thought. He takes 2 to have problems and solve. I see no effort, and care from his side. He scares me because he is too quick to call the cops. When I got out and I told him that I didn’t like that and he said he won’t do it again but what hurts the most is when I found out that he was playing video games the night of my arrest I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. Because not only did he never checked up on me when I got arrested and was cold when I reached out but he also showed no empathy. I don’t know what to do. Am I overreacting?? He tried to speak to me but i feel like it’s fake. I am deeply hurt and mad. I kind of wanted to act revengeful towards him for not caring when I was in jail by asking for a divorce. But now thinking about it I don’t even think he cares. Am I losing too for asking for a divorce?? And I am sort of scared to start over too with a baby. Please feel free to tell me anything. I just feel embarrassed and ashamed to tell my close ones.

Starting food

My baby is going to be 6 months on the first of April any tips on how to start weening

Bd shenanigans

I be trying to figure out why my bd keeps a key to my home. He don’t wanna help with anything financially.. he don’t want to commit when it comes down to be a husband and being around FT for your children like I don’t understand these men, he don’t wanna last long in the bedroom 🥹😩 & also don’t wanna treat me like the queen I am. He just loves to play mind games and have access to all these different women👩🏽🥷🏿if he were to be all the possible things I’d ofc love to enjoy being the wife he deserves…. And obviously do everything I can to make everything right and comfortable for him

Easter🐣

My little one will be nearly 4 months old on Easter and I’m really stuck on what to do for her for Easter because she won’t be eating chocolate. I want to do will give her something more meaningful and like give her a few things to remember her first Easter but I literally have zero clue on where to start?

And for all the Karens respectfully your comments are not wanted here xo