Stubborn husband

Hi! I’m a new mum to a 5 week old baby boy and there is zero routine!
My husband is so good at helping me despite being at work full time. He still does at-least 50% of the housework and cooking and gets up once in the night to feed the baby.
I do the other 50% and then look after the baby during the day and do all bar the 1 night feed.
Whenever I get overwhelmed my husband steps in and will take the baby - however, whenever he’s clearly overwhelmed he will not give me the baby!
Last night for example, the baby woke up at 4:30, my husband got him back to sleep, 35 mins later he woke up, my husband insisted it was his turn so went to put him back to bed, he got him back to sleep at 6, put the baby back in bed and he started to wake up straight away - each time he came back in the room I could just tell he was getting more stressed out but he would not take my offer to swap, despite the fact he needed to be up and getting ready for work by 7:30 and had been up settling him for over 2 hours.
I think he just wants to do an amazing job, which is lovely, but how do i make sure he’s willing to accept my help? Did anyone else’s husband/partner react to having a newborn like this?
He massively struggles with change and has dealt with depression previously so I worry about how having a newborn who is so unpredictable is effecting him.
Tia x

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what would you do?

my son’s father and i aren’t together and he is only allowed to see our son for an hour a month (social services are involved, he’s not a good person at all) he also isn’t allowed any unsupervised contact with him until he turns 16.

i don’t receive child maintenance from him and i’m so against him as a person due to his past behaviours and actions that i find it very difficult to communicate with him regarding our son. he messages and calls me constantly but most of it is asking about me- where i am, what i’ve been up to, who i’m with, what my plans are tomorrow etc etc. he doesn’t seem to take much interest in our son.

my social worker has been very clear with me that i am in control and if i don’t want him in the picture that they can make that happen because he isn’t a good person and it truthfully would be easier for my son growing up if he just wasn’t there (he’s 2 months old)

how do i know when to turn around and say i don’t want him involved? because i feel like i’m letting my dislike for him take over

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