Is this a red flag?

He was probably just really into the game and wasn’t expecting it, it’s kinda like if ur not paying attention and something came at ur face it would catch u off guard I wouldn’t take it to heart he probably feels really bad about it

I think you don’t put things in people’s mouths without their EXPRESS consent. I find it weird that you think he’s a red flag because of his knee-jerk reaction to sticking a burning spliff in his mouth without him being aware though. I would apologize to him. Like, I kinda consider you the red flag here.

It doesn’t sound like it was a purposeful reaction to me so I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag 🤷‍♀️

lmfao why didnt you just keep smoking it 😂😂

Yeah I think you fucked up a bit there, I'd have the same reaction as him if that happened to me 🤷🏻‍♀️ you feel "really disrespected" yet you put something on/in his mouth without consent? Think about that. I'd say hurting you was almost definitely an accident but his reaction was totally fair, not a mistake or red flag. Might be time for an apology and bit of self reflection!

I've done it before with other people so I didn't think it was going to make him react that way

This sounds like it was an automatic threat response rather than a conscious choice he made, if he was engrossed in a game and not expecting anything to be shoved in his mouth his body probably just reacted to a perceived threat by smacking it out ..he wouldn't have had time to consider and think 'let me hit this away' it's definitely not a red flag or disrespectful in any way in my eyes

I would've had the same reaction probably. I've smoked with a lot of people over the years, my partner included, and not one time has anyone ever tried to put anything in my mouth nor have I done it to them. Put it in my hand or just wait until I'm ready. He's not paying attention so you stick something hot and burning in his mouth? Yeah I'd smack your hand as a reflex too and ask what you thought you were doing.

Not a red flag, Sounds like he got startled by something unexpected touching his face and went to swat it away without processing that it was your hand

I would of just chipped it out if he wasn't ready for it to be passed to him ,who pays for it? Another thing is why do people always think everything is a red flag? I mean I would have the same reaction,I wouldn't want it to be passed until ready for it ...like ask a few times and if not put it in the ashtray and remind him ,its that simple

The comments are a little harsh honestly I was just feeling like shit because it hurt my feelings but this post made me feel a thousand times worse. And everyone is calling me a red flag and just being really not nice and I don't understand why I'm getting this reaction. Thanks

And I asked if it was a red flag. I never said he was. If someone smacked your hand away even if they were trying to put food or something in your mouth wouldn't that also catch you off guard?

I mean, all of us have said the exact same thing. Maybe you should take that as a sign that you might be in the wrong on this one. Just say you’re sorry and move on. He slapped your hand away because he was startled. If anything, I’d say we’ve gone pretty easy on you.

you are acting like I need to be right! I just asked if it was a red flag and everyone said no and I accepted that. But to be rude or to call me a red flag is OTT. I have feelings as well. You lot are more mad at me than my boyfriend was earlier

Why would you need to go easy on me?! Yes what I did should not be done again. You are acting like I slapped him or shoved it in his face! We both apologized

🤨 You put a burning spiff in his mouth without his consent or even his awareness. And then got your feelings apparently hurt when he slapped your hand away after being startled. And then you came on here to ask if that was red flag behavior on his end because you felt disrespected. No one here has remotely tried to hurt your feelings. We’ve simply told you our opinions.

Yes it definitely would catch me off guard to get my hand smacked away but I really think he just got super sucked into the game and was startled

m thank you for your opinions. You offended me by calling me a red flag, telling me you've gone easy on me. I didn't burn him so even saying it that way is painting a picture. thanks anyway!

Okay girl. I didn’t tell you that you were a bad person because I don’t think you are. I didn’t call you any names (because that’s rude and unnecessary). I did tell you that sticking a burning spliff in someone’s mouth is uncool. I think your behavior should be called out and I think that’s upset you. If you’ve both apologized, why are you asking us if it’s been resolved?

I told you why you offended me. Thanks for pointing out my behavior. Enjoy your evening

Girl your whole post is asking about internet strangers opinion ,you gonna hear answers you don't want to hear ... You don't have to keep the joint going you can chip it out and re light it 😂
I feel like this one kinda lacks common sense NGL 🙏

I am not surprised this is your response because you are always rude on posts. There is a way to not be nasty and still give an opinion. Hope this helps

thank you ❤️

It’s not a red flag, he probably just got a little startled because he was distracted. It’s just him being cautious of what is going by his face at the moment. Things happen

i get it !! in a cyph if im passing and that person aint paying attention imma keep facing that ish till they notice it aint come to them yet😂😂

I will definitely do this from now on 😅

Always rude ahah that's funny lol 🤣 only to people that clearly don't know common sense 🫶I think we are way past trying to speak to you normally,you behaviour has been called out now ...maybe next time just think about what your doing 🤨🫡
And btw choosing incognito tells me everything lol 😂 some of us aren't afraid to tell people when they are in the wrong ...

please give it a rest now

Maybe you should take your own advice love 😂🤨

look at you and look at everyone else

Nah thanks ,over half of people who voted on your pol thinks otherwise,don't try to turn it around ..your post ..your problem

Not red flag just startled, good that he apologized though

look at your behavior. This has nothing to do with the post. Ive already moved on and accepted I was wrong. You are the only one being outright nasty now and it's kind of ridiculous lol. You want me to play victim so badly

Girl I don't even know you don't get so ahead of yourself and stop overthinking shit people tell you ,I honestly don't care at all ..I just put my input in sorry 😂and I'm not being nasty just honest ......if you don't want people's honest opinions on things just keep shit to yourself..there is only so much patience someone can have with someone else god damn 🤨🤣

you do this on every post. You're a miserable child.

I don't comment on every post on this app that would take alot of time ,thats abit far fetched 🤣and oh boo shall I go cry now lol 😂..

grow up jolly. I'm sure you are miserable being a 22 year old mom who spends her time being a mean girl. Any time I see you comment it's on a post asking for opinions or advice and you are always so rude to the OP. And obviously I meant every post you comment on and not every post because common sense says that's not even possible 😂😂 no one is crying. You didn't offend me. When I see your name I automatically assume it'll be this type of behavior. You have 1 person agreeing with you and that should tell you something because you're being ridiculous. Someone already commented about sharing opinions without being outright rude, but conveniently you ignored that and ran with I'm bothered by opinions. I'm happy I'm not as miserable as you. My relationship is great and this little post is not a reflection of it. Shame you did all of this. Really telling on how you feel about yourself

Lol girl you don't know me at all clearly ...why do you keep thinking I'm miserable lol ,happiest I have ever been ...thanks ...and no I'm not always rude to the OP that's definitely a lie actually alot of the times I'm the one giving advice to people but you ...you can just go to hell honestly "when I see your name" sure lol like you spend alot of your time looking at my name and seeing what I put every time thats pretty fucking creepy not gonna lie .."this little post is not a reflection of it" you sure about that? You seemed pretty different about it at first 🤨 Imagine being a stranger that has no idea what they are talking about ...just from what I say on my posts doesn't mean fuck all ...alot of people I have helped and alot of them bite back when they don't like what they hear ...you gotta be best of both worlds ,understanding but also honest...that's something you clearly have taken out of proportion from what I have said to you...

ok great idc not reading that

OMG GIVE IT A REST ALREADY

You just like to argue. Happy people don't do this! Just leave me alone already damn

Your the one that keeps replying omg 😫🫠