Question, I’m pregnant for the second time and not having a shower—would it be tacky to post my baby registry on social media? What is your opinion?

I’m so scared we won’t get anything if nobody knows it exists.🥲Moms of multiples how did you go about this?

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I did the whole “A few people asked so here is the list “ thing. No one actually asked lmao.

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Baby list is a great app for a “media sprinkle” because you can make a list of what you still need and even link Amazon and also mark if you’re willing to accept hand-me-downs on certain items. You can share your list on this Peanut app too so other moms on here can shower your new baby with some love 🥰 lots of us moms have things we need to get rid of that we either never even used or isn’t being used any longer bc their baby has outgrown it. Don’t be afraid to ask for things and celebrate your 2nd baby! Congrats pretty mama! 💕

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It’s normal you can send it personally or post it… lots of women did this during COVID!

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If your social media is mostly friends who you actually speak to regularly and people you would invite to an actual event then post.
I made a registry for my second, people actually did ask what to get me and I texted it to everyone who asked for it. I was going to have an in person sprinkle but it turned into a virtual one because it was 2020.

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I done the same as Haley sent out a post saying As people keep asking what we would like for the baby we are requesting gift vouchers for the following stores.

Whilst noone asked as always, we would of got a lot of stuff I didn't want or didn't like.

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No its definitely not tacky. If you have people that are wanting to support you and get stuff for the baby its better for them to know what you need then have no idea!

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I’m early on so only one friend knows and she’s already asked me for my registry so in ur case I’d post it . I still gift for closer friends and family having their 2nd and 3rd baby etc . Registries make things easier for me to know what someone actually needs anyway.

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Post it. I did on a post and was like "Thank you so much for everyone's love and words of encouragement, if you wanted to get the baby a little something, we have a shopping list/registry" then dropped the link.

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Thanks everyone I ended up posting it; My page is private & since like said it’s just family and close friends on there a few people ended up actually buying some things!! Thanks all for giving me the push I needed☺️🤍

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