Brothers wedding advice needed!!

My brother is getting married this September and has said it’s a no kids wedding. My LG will be just 5 months and he is expecting me to leave her at home with someone while I attend the wedding.
The wedding is a 5 hour car journey away and I don’t know what to do!
She is formula fed so can’t use breast feeding as a reason to bring her. He doesn’t have any kids so I think he just doesn’t understand the mental pressure this is. Any advice on what I should do would be awesome because I am so stressed about it all!!

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How frustrating! Do you have in laws who could help? Not ideal but maybe ask if they could have baby and bring them with you? That’s super annoying though on your brothers part, that’s his niece! I understand when people have no children at weddings, but your niece I feel would be an exception!

My brother is getting married when my unborn child will be 5 months old. He hasn't said it'll be an issue but if it is an issue, I won't be going to the wedding. Simple as.

I highly recommend for you to take a family member that you trust when have them stay with her at your hotel or airb&b . Get ready with your baby give her her bottle put her to sleep and you will feel better leaving right after that. And she will only need 1-2 after that. I don’t recommend for you to be far from your baby. Especially hours away. You’ll feel much better being close to your baby. Private message me and we can catch I had something similar happen to me and I can tell you how I went about it 😘

Current plan is to leave her with my best friend who is in childcare as the in-laws can’t have her. Can’t bring any one to the wedding as it’s in a super fancy Manor House and the rooms are crazy expensive!

Usually babes in arms are an exception so I would ask if she can come. Otherwise if you don't feel comfortable leaving her then don't attend. I imagine he'll make the exception quickly, but even if he doesn't then I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Just send a nice gift and move on.

If you wanted to go above and beyond you could ask a family member on your partners side or a friend to travel with you and stay nearby looking after baby during the wedding. I don't think you need to do this though!

My brother got married when my daughter was 8wks old. We had someone mind her in our room at the venue for the day so we could pop back and check whenever we wanted and also she was out of the way so no one was at her. Maybe check with your brother if doing that is an option?

Surely if it's your brother's wedding he would be okay with his sister taking their baby. If it wasn't such a close family member and they didn't want kids, that's understandable But your brother? Try speaking to him and tell him all the baby sister aka your family would be attending the wedding.

Can you book an air bnb close by and have your friend stay there maybe?

Usually at 5m old the issue is that baby is EBF and won’t take bottles and no one can really settle her but mum but in your case baby is formula fed so I would just get someone stay a night w me nearby the wedding and stay at the Airbnb and make a weekend out of it, and go somewhere nice the day before or the next day w whoever’s looking after the baby that day in your case the bestie. Ask her if she’s free for the weekend to stay w you 5hrs away and make a lil memorable vacation out of it coz I can’t imagine you’d be driving 5hrs there then 5hrs back in the same day anyway, it’ll be at least overnight.

We have a very similar situation as my partners brother is getting married in a month and our little boy isn't invited. We had multiple conversations and tried to find a way we could have him there as there are other children attending but they wouldn't budge and i am EBF.

I know lots of people will say it's their right, but i would be really upset if i was you. It's a lot of pressure to out on you to leave a little baby. Do you have any family who could come with you and watch your baby for a few hours so you can attend as much of the day as you like?

We've agreed my mum will have our little boy and i will attend the ceremony on the day if our baby is settled and happy. I won't be leaving him if he's upset/teething etc and i wouldn't have attended when he was under 6 months tbh.

He has to accommodate somehow, even if your friend bunks with someone else sp they she look after your child close by. It can’t just be no no no from him. And once the ceremony is over, why can’t she then be with you?

My partner had offered to stay behind with her but I just don’t want to be away from her for that long gunna give him a call today and try to figure it out. Thank you all for the help

Anyone can decide not to accept children at their marriage. Yet they should accept some people won't attend for that precise reason. I would tell your brother that your baby is very small and that you are not leaving her with a stranger yet. And see how it goes... If he is not happy about that but still not make an exception for his nephew well... You just don't go. No fight, no cries, just priority

If your partner is willing to stay behind would he be willing to stay in the room with her / take her out for a walk nearby during the ceremony etc then you can always pop back to the room to be with her for an hour or so and he could join the wedding for a bit?

Iv had to forgo 3 family weddings because of the no kids rule, I don't have any other ppl to care so that means I can't go. I state that that's the reason

My husband's close cousin is getting married and they've said it's a no kids wedding and I said no problem I just won't be going. I don't see a reason to go somewhere my baby isn't welcome. And mine is 19m, so I can't really imagine leaving a 5m old. Of course everyone is different but for me it wasn't even a discussion I was willing to have.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

Friends with shitty husbands

Does anyone have a close friend with a shittv husband?

My best friend of 14years married her high school sweetheart (minus the sweetheart.) He was always a POS growing up, had an on and off relationship and eventually from what I was told, they sorted their shit out and got married. I moved countries and her and I drifted apart for a while so I didn't know too much about what their relationship was like but assumed all was well since her social media alluded to that.

We both had babies within a year of each other, she had hers first and when she gave birth I found out I was pregnant. I had a rough pregnancy and we weren't in contact much but after my LO was born we spoke a lot. This is when I found out that she was struggling with PPD etc. She opened up about how useless her husband is, I would go as far as to say abusive. She's a SAHM who basically does absolutely evervthing & is being financially abused She's completelv touched out and is about to have a second child in a week.

I absolutelv cannot stand her husband. I hate how he treats her. I hate to hear about him. She posted on social media all the time about how lucky she is to have him as a husband and father to her babies yet cries to me on the phone in private about what really goes on.
I'm at a point now where I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I feel guilty that she's going through this but she's also allowing it to continue in a sense. I'm so emotionally exhausted with her problems and just want to shake her.

How do you/would you navigate this situation?