Do you think my husband will be mad if I suggest using donor sperm?

What does he want to do if he doesn't want to go the fertility doctor route?

he wants to wait and try to do it naturally when he gets better. However, (TMI) we haven’t been intimate in about 1.5yrs due to everything that’s going on with his health. I’m not trying to rush anything but I was hoping to be done with having kids before the age of 35.

I would maybe push for fertility doctor first before pushing for a donor! I think the donor thing may sting to hear.

I would assume that would really hurt his pride and manhood. I could imagine him feeling like you care about having a child so much that you’re willing to have another man’s child just to get it. What is his purpose in your life then?
If the situation was reversed, how would you feel?

Is he getting treatment for his health issues? How long does his doctor think it will take to get better? I feel like I would be willing to wait a bit to see if there is an improvement but in the meantime be investigating our other options.

Is he able to ejaculate on his own? If so you could try at home ICI.

I would talk it over with him gently. We suffered with infertility and we both wanted to try with our own sperm and eggs first but we also agreed that if either or both our sperm and eggs were the problem we were willing to look into using a donor.

he is on dialysis currently awaiting a dual transplant. We don’t know how long before he receives one. All of the medication he’s taking is contributing to the ED. He said he was able to ejaculate once a few months back but haven’t since then.

there are some couples that are not able to have kids and they adopt. I see this as no difference. If I’m not able to have kids but we both wanted a child then I would be okay with getting a surrogate.

I would have a conversation about laying out all your options. Like okay these are every possible thing we can do that we can afford: X, Y, and Z. Let’s talk about how we feel about each one.

Isn’t the difference that you already have a child; it’s just that he isn’t moving fast enough for you?
If he isn’t fully on board could a concern be that he would feel differently about his own child versus your child? Just throwing concerns out because you asked if we who don’t know your husband would be mad if you suggested using a sperm donor.
Me, my husband would be very offended by this and to me for good reason

thanks for your input!