Can’t trust husband to stay awake!

Does anyone else struggle with their partner and sleep? So my husband falls asleep anywhere, anytime. He is always tired and I can’t trust him to stay awake or wake up for baby in the night.

Baby always settles on my bed and then I transfer him to next to me crib after about 20 mins. I do all the nights as he’s ebf. But honestly I couldn’t trust my husband to do nights anyway because he wouldn’t wake up when baby needed him.

We had a plan where baby would stay on my bed and hubby watch him (as it’s not a completely safe sleep space) and then I could have an hour or so to myself and then I’d come up, transfer him. He promised he was well awake and I could go relax. 15 mins later I hear him snoring. He denies it and says he was awake, he clearly wasn’t.

I’m so mad but it’s involuntary he just can’t stay awake!! No idea what I’m asking really, I just needed to rant. I am exhausted.

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Install camera/baby monitor to record him🤣 honestly, it seems all men are the same. Mine is similar - he won't hear a thing and denies his snoring. I'm sleeping with my little one in bedroom, and my husband moved out to another one. Not easy, but I prefer this rather than having him moaning or not looking after out little boy properly! I feel for you though...

My partner was like this, and it turned out he has sleep apnea. He needs to have a machine at night to help him breathe and with that he actually now falls asleep a lot less during the day. I suggest him getting checked out by a dr and referred to a sleep clinic just to be sure x

Yep mines same, I do all feeds as he works and tbh it doesnt really bother me getting up through the night anyway, lo gets up about 5/6 for a feed and typically then goes back till 9am. On a Sunday I get up early, have dogs in garden and still have to go up when she wakes up at 9 and get her as hes fast on and doesnt hear her.

I think its half my doing because he sleeps through the night knowing Im getting up to her his body just doesnt wake to her noises. She doesnt wake up crying either, just babbling. Still frustrates the life out of me 🤦‍♀️

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