First time travels

Hello! My husband and I are taking a trip for the first time with our one year-old and would love any advice we can get; especially when it comes to travel car seats for cars/transportation.

My son will be sitting in my lap on the airplane on the way to our destination, and then we will need to have a car seat in an Uber or shuttle to a cruise that we’re taking.

Should we take the car seat that I already have or is there a special travel car seat that you all recommend?

And any other advice when it comes to first time, travel would be greatly appreciated, thank you!🩷

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We take our car seat with us all the time. They check it in for free and its easier than finding another one at destination. Also, not sure how long your flight is but do carry different snacks and few toys for the baby. They get bored easily and there is not much to do on the plane.

We took our car seat, but I highly recommend airtagging it because they lost it on our way back and it's been 2 weeks and they are still looking for it! My hopes of getting it back are very slim! It's a pricey item you really don't want to lose it!

Travel wise - bring toys and books they have never seen before!
Make sure they are drinking or eating while departing/landing, helps with their ears! If they are congested you want to flash them before traveling and bring Tylenol, because it can be very painful!

Cosco Scenera and Cosco Elite are both super light weight and perfect for travel. I also got a strap and gate check bag on Amazon so I could strap it to my roller suitcase and then to gate check it when getting on the plane

I have a Cosco Scenera Next and we buy an extra seat for long plane rides so I can put our baby down.

Anyways. I just have water and snacks ready for him. I also bought disposable placemats you peel and stick them to a flat surface. It was way easier than bringing suction plates.
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