Constant crying

My baby constantly cries she is just over 3 weeks. It doesn’t matter if she’s skin to skin, feb, changed, and everything else. She just cries and cries and I can’t seem to settle her! Any tips?

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Could it be colic?

Have you tried some infacol?

Is it trapped wind or constipation? We have started burping multiple times during feeds and also using infacol before each feed and that seemed to have helped! It’s not easy though is it! Hope you’re okay and hope it passes soon for you! X

Oh that sounds awful. My little one is very very similar! Shes now 7 weeks and started to see it settle in the last week 🤞 it's honestly really hard.

Few things I had checked when it all kicked off
- if BFing see if your local infant feeding team can review latch, excessive gulping of air can cause this
- consider a review by your GP to see if anything like reflux or cows milk allergy milk be contributing

Some people have suggested to me baths (and co-bathing if you're comfortable) but it didn't help me.

I basically would run through my list of - are you hungry, gassy, hot, cold, nappy clean. If all ticked off then id go to a dark room, skin-to-skin, white noise very loud and lots of bouncing and rocking. It worked sometimes. Sometimes it didn't! It's honestly so difficult!

Read up on Purple crying (https://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/baby/new-born-care/purple-crying)
There's an IBCLC on Instagram called Lucy Webber who has a post about 3-8wks which really helped me understand what was going on with my baby.

To add on if your midwife hasn't spoken about ICON I would recommend it
https://iconcope.org/

This crying can be a lot and so frustrating. It's okay to leave baby in a safe place and take some time to reset and come back fresh xx

Squeezing legs and hands gently helps take their mind off it. But also frequently burping helps a lot too. Hang in their mamma. Apparently clears up at 6-8 weeks x

Hi! I'm at 5 weeks and feel this so deeply. At 3 weeks I hit a wall as she cried for hours (4, maybe 5 at a time) and ended up crying down the phone to our GP. Our little one was given gaviscon for silent reflux. It's helped a little, but she's still a fussy, crying baby. As above, I recommend going through all the motions: nappy check, fart exercises, burping, feed, burping, skin to skin, try to get them to sleep. Start the process again.
I'm hoping I'll get a happy, smiley girl soon, but I really am sorry you're going through this. You aren't alone, I promise.

I feel you! The only thing settling my one is if I stand up and have him over my shoulder and tap his back.. or a pram walk! I think it’s a phase they go through..

(Of course, check with GP just incase it could be colic or reflux etc)

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My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.