Husband issues

Hello. I am not sure what I am hoping to get from here but maybe just to know if somebody is in the same or similar situation can calm me down that I am not alone in this. So I am stay at home mum at the moment, we have nearly 5 year olf girl and almost 3 month old new baby boy.. but I feel so alone on all of this. My husband works 6 days a week 8 to 17, comes home after 17:30 and he doesn't need to do anything and I should say doesn't want to do abything. His dinner is ready for him, he feels annoyed woth kids sometimes. He spends lots of time on the phone and when our older one asks him to play with her he most of the time does but during that he watches tv or phone which iut daughter then begs him please put the phone down... when I tell him she has been exciting for him to come home from work he says he is tired and he want to rest a bit for which I answer that I am tired too and I do not get any rest I need to be ready 24/7 then he replies you don't work, what do you do? Just stay at home, don't need to do anything. And that is how the argue starts everytime and I am so much tired of that. I feel so lonely, undervalued, I know he works and he is tired, but the kids are his also not only mine, he is also a parent and when I tell him this, he will say, that's why I am at home. And on top of that my grandma has terminal cancer and has only weeks left to live which is draining me emotionaly as well on top of a little new baby and he doesn't make it any easier for me at all... There are times, when he is a wonderful dad and a husband, but I just wish he was more present with us and valued me more and helped me more at least with the kids if not around the home. I feel like I need to ask him everything and then I look bad that I dare to ask him because I am at home and he works... but he doesn't see that I don't stop working and I don't go out anywhere. He goes occasionaly for beer with friends to relax. I haven't been anywhere for years and I do not have who to go with... as I am not from the UK and all my friends and family is back home but he has friedns and sister and brother and looots of cousins in the UK.. It used to be much better now I feel like a maid and unapreciated on top of that.. when I try to talk to him about all this and tell him how I feel we end up arguing about that he works and I am "just" at home and doing nothing. Is anybody having similar troubles?? Sorry for a loong story.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

8 month old cry alllll the time?

I keep thinking I’m doing something wrong..

My baby has always been a crier, car seat, pram seat, nappy changes, outfit changes, nap times etc.. first 6 months we put it down to reflux, I had a lot of advice from HV/ GP as I was really struggling.

He’s improved with his reflux but I think now we are in a constant state of teething.. (he has 6 teeth now) or am I just making an excuse for his constant crying?

I can’t go on pram walks, I can’t go on drives, I have to constantly hold him/ entertain him for him to stop crying. I feel like there can’t be something up with him because the moment I hold him or entertain him he’s so happy and giggles/ babbles!

I’m just wondering if anyone is going through something similar?