Help settle a debate: if you have to cancel going to a birthday party last minute, would you bring their gift next time you see them?

I agree with you. You buy a present with the child’s interests in mind so it may not suit her child to just keep anyway? That’s the way I see it anyway

I saw her on Saturday, she did not bring a gift 😂😂

I’ve known her a long time so I’m not annoyed about it. She is the kind of friend who will flake on a coffee date, but if I was in real trouble and needed help, she’d do everything possible to make sure I was okay.

So I’m not mad about it, but since my husband thought it’d be weird to bring a birthday gift, I’m curious if I’m the weird one or if he is 😂

Yup, she never planned on coming. And yes i would bring a gift next time we saw each other. I would stop inviting her personally.

She probably didn’t come because she forgot to buy a gift. Stop inviting her anywhere

I would not necessarily say that she never planned on coming, and that she was faking it out from the beginning because I had this happen to me just this past weekend! I’m terrible and alwaysss doing things last minute. I don’t think I’ve ever actually gotten a kids bday gift in advance! Unfortunately it’s usually the day before or most times the same day! Like go to the store package the gift and head to the party from there 😩 it’s a terrible habit I know. But this past weekend I had a kid birthday party to go to, but things got crazy at the house. I was running, super behind. We were all getting over a cold, and a time for the party was approaching, and I hadn’t even gotten the gift yet, so because of how overwhelming, it was going to be to try to get everything in order and make the party in a decent time. I decided to just cancel at the last minute. I felt terrible, but there was literally nothing I could really do my intention weeks before was to certainly go to the party and to

Get a gift, but I just was not able to pull it off. Just saying all this to say, don’t write people off just because they didn’t come through. You never know what someone’s going through and how difficult certain things might be for them. I have ADHD and struggle with getting things done on time. Or getting things done at all. So, since you said that she at the end of the day is a good friend, who would come through for you if you really needed then I would say consider giving her grace in these situations.

don’t worry, we’ve been friends way too long to write her off over a single present!! We saw her on Saturday, she didn’t bring a gift or mention missing the party, I didn’t bring it up either. She’s flaky on things like this, but she will always come through if someone really needs her so I’m not mad about it.

My husband thought I was weird for saying that I would bring a gift next time I saw the person if we cancelled that late on a party, so I made the poll to see if he was right 😂😂

If they don’t eventually give the gift, I assume they were never planning on coming and didn’t buy one

Is it compulsory somebody buy you a gift ?? Isn't it enough they just show up and celebrate w y'all whatever it is?? Isn't somebody allowed to be sick or tired or just not bothered enough to go somewhere especially w small kids?? Or just not want to anymore ?? I can see why she'd be mia w you. Probably knows how you operate by putting people on levels since y'all were bffs at some point. Invite people. Either they come or not. They can say why or not. They can keep intouch or not. Upto you to decide if you wanna keep it going. But to just assume things ain't nice.