Third birthday party - how to handle nursery invitations?

When 20 people RSVP, what will you do?

How does it work with siblings? If one parent is working then makes it difficult to leave them behind.
I would invite just 13 and ask the nursery to hand them out. At that age everyone is their friend! Make sure it’s actually the kids he plays with.

When I’ve done parties everyone I invited came so I wouldn’t invite them all. Get him to give you a list of all his best friends and maybe even ask the nursery if there’s anyone they notice he plays with a lot x

Thanks everyone, I’m just going to feel so guilty if they speak about it in front of kids who didn’t get an invite 😭 they’re all genuinely so sweet, there’s nobody he doesn’t get on with!

Just be honest and say to the parents that you're sorry, but you could only invite a certain number of people, so you went with the kids that your little boy speaks to and plays with the most.

Are you absolutely set on that venue? Could you find one that would allow more people?

I made a note of who my daughter regularly talks about playing with and then confirmed this with the nursery staff. They were able to suggest other children too.

I would change venue, children will not notice that much the furniture etc, they will remember playing together and having fun. I would just get a very simple venue who allows for all children to be there.
In general at this age either you invite everyone or nobody, it’s not like they are teenagers with their own friend groups.

Pick a different venue

Go to a park or non catered venue. Unless you're sure only the number chosen will show up. I am also looking around because mine started kinder too so for this birthday they're wanting all the class to attend 🙆🏿‍♀️👀 the last one we just been to sooo many kids came lol 🤣🤣 it's definitely stressing me out what to do. I looked at venue hosting and it's a waste Unless no school friends imo. If just family and friends then easier to limit numbers. And remember you can't just keep sending invites as they get cancelled or accepted lol.. you need to hive people time. So only send invite when you decide exactly how many kids you want to invite.

Idk about your daycare but the one we were at, if you weren’t inviting the whole class you had to hand out invitations privately not in the classroom. Just a thought too to help with the process.

Turns out the venue has a party package that accommodates the whole class 😊 costing an arm & a leg but such is life! Thanks everyone

I would invite them all it’s unlikely they’ll all make it

That's hard. It is flu season starting so you might get a lot of no-shows anyway. You can invite 1 room early and then if you get some "no" then invite that amount of "no" from the other room?

If the venue can accommodate more, I would hire the smaller package, invite 25 and upgrade accordingly.

Otherwise just invite the 13 he likes to play the most with.

Personally for my daughter’s 2nd birthday I asked her key worker who she plays with and I’d do that again for her 3rd. Ask your daughter if there’s anyone, and then the staff members! Don’t feel pressured into inviting loads, I’d stick to around 8-10 and that’s what I did! (And all but 1 came!!)

For my daughters birthday I invited how many we wanted then a couple RSVP’d that they couldn’t make it so we invited two more in their place.