Fatigue

I had a GP (it was a woman) tell me she’s never heard of fatigue or exhaustion in the first trimester and that my body shouldn’t be tired from “making a few cells” - she asked if I was depressed and if I wanted to keep the baby/if it was planned and was kinda blaming me on not getting out of bed enough. I’m usually a very busy person, who is always on the go. All my bloods have been coming back okay, but the exhaustion is next level. I said it just feels like I’ve had the flu for the last 6 weeks. She said well is it the flu? That I should be energised and never heard of women being so exhausted before. She was very rude and just feels like it’s my fault I feel this way.

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She clearly doesn’t have children herself. You only have to speak with the midwives or google to see exhaustion is common in all stages of pregnancy x

I personally would complain about her. Asking if you are depressed and if you want to keep your baby is incredibly judgemental when actually fatigue is so so common, especially in the first trimester. It's also a time that people are more hormonal and the comments she made will really hurt people. I would contact PALS asap!!

I don’t think I would have been able to hold my tongue with her! What a ridiculous comment for her to make! Exhaustion is extremely common!

What an absolutely stupid thing for her to say...
I would personally complain and ask for another GP as that would upset me...
It is common knowledge about 1st trimesters in pregnancy, she is obviously oblivious to how the female body works (even though she is one)
She needs her knowledge retested I think 😱

Thank you all so much for your comments 🤍 I really was second guessing myself - I was really calm on the phone, as last thing I wanted to do was add to her narrative about me, but she did really make me feel like it’s my fault and cried when I came off of the phone! I’ve seen so many women say how bad their fatigue has been during first trimester (and during all of pregnancy at times) this is my first baby and don’t have a family around me to support, so not sure what is normal and what isn’t!

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