Be honest - have you ever spanked your child?

Toddler brains are not capable of listening in the way that many adults often expect them to. Our expectations are simply not grounded in reality. Can you give a more detailed example? I’m sure there are many other suggestions of ways to respond that don’t involve hitting.

You wouldnt slap an adult for not listening to you...why would you hit a child who doesnt have the cognitive development to be obedient the way you imagine they should be?

No I haven’t spanked my children. My response to their behavior Depends on what they’re doing. If they’re trying to put their fingers in a light socket and don’t listen, I take them away from the light socket. If they’re throwing toys at their sister and dont listen, I take the toys away for a bit.
Teaching them requires a lot of repetition because their long term memory isn’t great. They also don’t understand negations like “dont”.
Toddlers are known for testing boundaries because they don’t know what the boundaries are. They’re learning whats acceptable behavior so they’re gonna try to throw toys and put their fingers in a light socket because they don’t know that they shouldn’t.

Also there’s sometimes an additional reason for misbehavior like if they have a tummy ache or are tired, theyre more likely to respond to things negatively.

Yes. We are spankers.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, why is spanking a child the only time hitting someone is okay? You hit another adult, ABUSE. You hit an animal, animal ABUSE, but you hit a child, discipline? Make it make sense. It’s only teaching a child that it’s okay to hit others when they are angry.

To each his own, but we spank. Maybe we’re just old school.

Yes we spank as do all my mom friends it's not abuse that's very much an over statement I tried to call the police on my mom when I was a kid they said as long as there are no marks a parent can spank a child repetition does not always work discipline is needed I've tried the redirection method I moved her and took the toy a hundred times and she still does the same thing I pop her hand or her diaper and she stops

I tried it once and realized that was my own frustration taking over and not me actually parenting.

I feel if you have to spank your child for something, then they will just hide things from you later so they don’t get spanked.

Your toddler didn’t HAVE to have a hit. You chose hitting as your form of punishment for him. I’m trying not to be too harsh here but honestly, don’t be surprised if he hits other kids.

Violence teaches violence. It doesn’t teach them to listen. Research better methods of communication.

please, please, please get some help with your parenting. If you cannot find any way of teaching your kids without physical contact, you are doing them a massive disservice. There is so much research out there. The resources are literally at your fingertips.

Bottom line this comment section is full of judgement don't share your real opinion unless your ready to be bombarded with replies telling you your a bad parent do your own research talk to family and friends go from there it's more women against women in this app

it’s not judgement sweet. Get off the high horse and hear what people are saying OVER and OVER and OVER. You are harming your child’s mental development. Maybe you don’t care? If so, why are you here? Again, any form of hitting IS abuse, whether you want to believe it or not. The research is out there. Go read. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m not shaming. I’ll repeat myself for those reacting instead of reading - RESEARCH SHOWS THAT SPANKING DAMAGES YOUR CHILDREN. Clear? Read and research. It’s at your fingertips.

read and research. It’s readily available to you. 🫶

Other random people agreeing with you doesn’t DISPROVE scientific research. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I yelled at him once and profusely apologized :(. Can’t even imagine spanking.

Never have and so help me God, never will!

everyone has already told you how incorrect you are so I’m not going to add on. But just a reminder that books can be written by anyone. We need to look at the actual scientific research. Which all agrees that hitting kids is bad.