Low libido after baby

Completely normal, took me a while to get back into the swing of things with my partner. You need to sit down and have an honest convo with him and explain exactly how you feel. The fact that you are hardly getting time to yourself isn’t helping, I found that once I started getting a few hours a week to myself where I could have a full bath, sort my hair out, go get my nails done, I started feeling better about myself and my drive increased. It may be completely different for you as everyone’s different and we all have different lives. But don’t have sex with him “just for him” if you aren’t enjoying it as much, tell him!! Hope this helps xx

I’m in this position right now, my daughter is almost 10 months old and we haven’t had sex since she was conceived. I just feel SOOO off it and I can’t bring myself to do it even just for him

Our baby is 9 months and it’s definitely harder to be into sex. EVEN when I want to it’s difficult with a baby that constantly needs attention. My husband is also constantly making comments and sometimes being just a little too touchy pushy for my liking and I just told him straight out. It’s very easy for them when they don’t carry even half our load. He understood and has calmed it down.
Also it took me MONTHS to have any interest in sex again. And even now it’s very sporadic. Maybe once every other month or such. I’m still wrapping my head around all the baby things first 🤣🤣

Forgot to add- DO TELL HIM honestly because the more he pushes and the more you get annoyed you’ll start getting disgusted by him 🤣🤣 literally happened to me and that’s why I just had enough one day and told him straight out he was being too much and blah blah

My sons 13 months and I’m still never really in the mood for it. Especially since you’re more tired, you’re running around looking after a baby/kids all day and by the end of it i really just don’t want to be touched. I feel all time time but I have tried to explain the feeling (which is harder then I thought) and he kind of gets it

🙂 unfortunately this is really common, reason why a ton of our sex drives are low is because we are the ones taking on majority of the load (home care, baby, food, chores, and partner)

I had this happen to my partner as well and it led to resentment, I was the one doing basically everything and still having to take on the mental load of my partner. As you mentioned, having to give your partner has to ask for a list. It’s weaponized incompetence.

My advice? Sit down and have a serious conversation with him, tell him that you need to have a partner who’s willing to share the load and do things around the house without being asked (I’m just saying, if he’s saying he’s the man of the house, and he still has to ask you? You’re also the man on the house, not him lol) tell him that you need to have a day to yourself, you’re willing to answer questions he has related to the baby the night before, but when the day comes? It’s up to him to parent his children. Not yours.

Completely normal . I have a vibrator love it . But sex I could go months with out it because it just overstimulates me more . So much pressure and I just can’t get out of my head