Pregnancy envy.

****hope this doesn’t upset anyone who is currently in the process of the whirlwind that is infertility****

So, I have a baby which we were blessed with through IVF. I’m forever grateful for this wonderful piece of science and I count my blessing every day.

I do however still feel serious envy and almost bitterness toward people that are announcing pregnancies.
I just feel so angry that me and my husband had to go through all that we went through to get our baby when it’s so easy for others.

Why am I feeling so sad when I have my beautiful daughter? I feel ungrateful even thinking like this…

I suppose i also fear that I may not ever get to experience pregnancy again, who knows.

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I feel the same.....I get so angry and so upset with pregnancies announcements...it took us so much to have our daughter 😢 and the fact that I probably will never know how it is to just fall pregnant like everyone else...it honestly breaks my heart.
I think your feelings are normal and completely valid, when I feel like that i just let myself feel it...because infertility is shit!

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I know this is a few days old, but honestly I had the same feelings. I’ve had my second now and it’s a little easier when people announce pregnancies, but with my first (who is now 2) I still felt resentment towards pregnancy announcements up until I was well established in my second pregnancy. I don’t feel it’s anything against them, but perhaps more just a resentment towards us not getting that easy pregnancy and almost the joy being taken out of pregnancy eg not getting surprised with a test / surprising your partner as you will have had a pregnancy test date and maybe have tested early too. Worry that you’ll carry to term (even worse when we lost the pregnancy before my first) even though I am so grateful for my girls and the struggle was worth it. IVF takes a lot of joy away from pregnancy and leaves a lot of trauma that doesn’t just go away when you have the baby.

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