Not enjoying this

My son just seems to have been ill every week since October when he started nursery.
It’s really wearing thin on me now, I feel so lost within sickness bugs. Without sounding too dramatic they’re literally ruling my life at the moment and I’m really not enjoying motherhood right now.
I envy my partner for being at work. I dread waking up to just do the same mundane thing of nursing a sick child. I literally spent the whole day in my pijamas covered in sick because he’s been stuck to me. I couldn’t even pop him in his cot to shower because he saturated it in sick so it was airing out.

I can’t even talk about the challenges that come with meal times. He’s running on a cream cracker right now, everything I make just get thrown or tantrums start. I don’t blame him, I know he doesn’t want to be like this.

I’m seriously considering taking him out of nursery. The germs are really too much, he only goes twice a week while I’m at work but the other 5 days he’s either got a cold or sickness. I can’t catch a break.

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I wish I could work 2 days a week, dealing with this and trying to work full time feels impossible 😞 I feel you !
My stress levels are through the roof x

It’s been the same here, since our girl started nursery it’s been back to back colds (currently crying with a blocked nose) and it’s so hard. Being run down too is doubly hard trying to look after a little one!

It's SO tough and utterly exhausting. Hang in there is all I can say. My daughter (now 3) had about three or four months of constant bugs when she started nursery at 10 months and then it just all seemed to die down after that and nowadays she just gets the odd cold and it's usually not more than a runny nose or a wee cough. My little boy has been exposed to second hand nursery bugs since birth so he has the immune system of an ox seemingly, but even he has had a fair few colds since starting nursery a couple of months ago. It's so hard to deal with by yourself when your other half is at work, but it does get better, honestly! Xxx

It’s so hard, I get it. My LG started nursery 4 months ago and has been sick more times than she’s been well. She’s had S&D twice, Cold, HFMD, UTI, croup followed by a chest infection and conjunctivitis. And out of all of that the sickness was the worst thing to manage.
At least with the other illnesses you can just comfort them but sickness is exhausting constantly having to change clothes and bedding, clean carpets and furniture.
We had 7 weeks on the trot of illness and then it seems to have eased off. So hopefully you won’t have to deal with it as often soon! It’s just annoyingly the best way for them to build an immune system

We’ve been the same since her birthday, feel so sorry for her as she’s constantly not well, we’ve been to the hospital twice already 😩 spend the week dreading her going to nursery and she’s not even doing a full day yet.

Thanks for replying all. I’m glad it’s not just me. Sometimes, when I see all the BS people throw out on socials and the life they portray, I really do question my capabilities as a mum, your comments have spoken in volume ❤️ xx

We’ve had the exact same since he started. Me and his dad have caught eveything as well . Me and his dad STILL have effects of RSV after weeks 😑

Since my son was born in October, until August, we had 6 sick bugs in the house. My daughter is almost 4 and bought most of the germs home from the childminders! I have a sick phobia, so it was rough, i totally feel your pain!! X

Same here I’m fed up she’s not been able to go into nursery a few times and yesterday was a struggle to get her looked after can’t keep calling off work I get every cold too and feel like iv had one since October

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️