Can you tell me really how you feel if you have more than 1 child?

I have three, I don’t regret three but there’s a few times week we’re in like shiiiit I have too many 😅

I take three out on my own all the time? I took three to Ikea solo yesterday, it was a bit chaotic but I got what I needed.

I’m burnt out AF but we had 3 years with no nursery or school at all and I worked for half of that.

My brain has a million tabs but I have ADHD and no space to regulate soooo I’m stuck for now, I’m trying to access meds but it some of the neglected tabs.

I'll be honest, when my youngest was younger and always strapped in a pram I would take them both out alone alot. My partner wouldn't though🙄 but I don't think I could handle it right now with the behaviour of my 4 year old!

How old are your little ones? Mine are 4, 2 and 9 weeks old. Luckily I have a present partner who is self employed so he takes over a lot with the older two and house chores. Weekends are pretty full on with classes and seeing friends and family. It’s chaotic and I always feel like there is a constant to do list of things I can’t keep on top of. I used to be a massive neat freak, I have had to loosen up on that and except a bit of toy mess and piles of never ending laundry. My older two have a lovely bond now and entertain eachother the majority of the time. If they do start bickering I try and let them resolve it between themselves which they have gotten pretty good at doing. I do step in if it starts getting physical, but letting them work it out together has made their friendship and bond so strong. I now find it easier having the two of them together as they keep each other occupied.
It’s the newborn that is the hardest because she hates being put down and she nurses quite often.

Fully relate. So over this already and wishing the time away 😅 Can't wait until my kids can act sensibly walking down the road etc and not be grief 😅 My 4 year old is starting to stay in bed when she's not ready to get up (her sister wakes her up) and I'm so here for that 😍

I feel exactly as you’ve described.
I love them to the ends of the earth, but my god do I feel touched out and overstimulated basically all of the time, I’m exhausted. I’m finding it a lot to juggle mentally and physically at this particular phase we’re in, and the fact my nearly 2yo seems to not need sleep at night is almost killing me off. I honestly think sleeping for any consistent chunks of time would do the world of good, but instead, I’m just less patient, less energy to do things, etc.
My husband could not do any more than he already does for them/me, which I’m really thankful for, but we don’t have a village to call on so there’s no respite really.

I have 3 but July baby is my youngest! I promise it gets easier when maxi was first born I felt like I was drowning as my middle one was 3 and I felt like all I did was keep them alive, take my oldest to school and just about keep my head above water and stop us drowning in dirty washing!

But now they’re older it’s much easier they can all chip in- even if it’s just putting their dirty socks in the wash! And they can all entertain themselves!

I had a big old meltdown this week cos I was over worked over stimulated trying to keep everyone happy make sure they all had costumes for there Christmas shows, their football kits were clean, the house was tidy etc etc etc. a dirty sock pushed me over the edge and my husband sent me out for a drive and him and the kids had a big chat about things and tidied the house, the older they get the more they understand, that’s actually no matter how hard we try we aren’t perfect! You’ve got this

@amie 4 and nearly 2, my partner does do a lot in the house and I've definitely loosened up on cleaning but it's all the mental load adminy jobs that fall mostly to me. What I find so hard though is not just the never ending to do list but that I find it really hard to cope with going to bed knowing I didn't tick things off and they roll onto the next day and there is already stuff for the next day😩

I'm glad you can relate. I had a big meltdown last night and I find when I feel so mentally drained that sucks all the physical energy out of me too and I stop doing things to look after myself like exercise and skin care.

So family admin absolutely crap, delegate it to your husband- the buts he’s capable of anyway! I was doing all the class chats, parties, football, other clubs, my work stuff etc. I don’t go to football training so why am I relaying the message? That’s a dad job now, birthday parties if it’s middle son he knows them Better so he does those parties I add him and remove me! I do the school stuff cos I’m there everyday so it makes sense but if they need a volunteer to take the girls football team to a tournament he can do that as he has flexi working times! I tried doing it all and I couldn’t I’m not a super human if some balls can be dropped and it’s not going to have a detrimental affect on anyone drop them!