Funding nursery !

What is everyone doing in terms of going back to nursery and work.i didn’t realise how much you lose by dropping work hours.

Lucky for us our nursery offer school day hours and NHS discount. However I will still be at a loss of approx £650 a month. My LO will be going to nursery for 3 days and I will need to drop 2 days as we have no other forms of support and cannot afford to take a further pay cut. We were toying with the idea of adding in an extra half day of nursery to make some extra money but it will be pointless as we will be at a loss of £11 but sending him to nursery. So financially we don’t gain anything.

I’m not sure what I am trying to get at, I think I’m having a hard time accepting that I’m having to take a pay cut which isn’t helpful at the moment.

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I’m dropping from full time to part time, 5 to 3 days a week. LO is in nursery 2 days a week. It was either stay workin more hours just to pay for LO to be looked after by someone else or work out how we could financially afford for me to be at home more. It does feel hard to let go of the wage I worked hard to achieve but once LO is older I might be able to get there again!

I don’t think there’s ever a choice that feels good, whether it be not seeing your LO because of work or having to cut hours and feel the financial strain

When I went back to Work the first time, my daughter was only eligible for 15 funded hours a week. So I went back part-time on 28hrs instead of the 40hrs a week I was doing. So I was taking Home about £400-£500 less and then having to pay £400 a month on two days a week at Nursery with the funded hours.

This time both children will be eligible for 30 funded hours a week when I return. I’m still going back on 28hrs but we have switched to a childminder Instead of a nursery and for them to go two days a week means we have to pay nothing for childcare as it’s all covered! Perhaps see if there’s any childminders near you?

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️