Are you and your partner a "package deal"?

My dad made it sound like I was weird for being upset at him over something he said to my husband 🫠

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Yes, he’s my partner for the rest of my life. I want to wake up next to him every morning, and I want him to be happy because I love him and he loves me. If someone is mean to him it’s going to be a problem because what?! That’s my man.
No we aren’t attached at the hip and we don’t always agree on everything and we’re honest with each other and he can handle things himself but I’m going to stand up for him where needed.

Yea, we are “package deal” or whatever that means. Lol I think it’s insane when ppl talk to me or him crazy and think that they we aren’t going to “defend” one another.
I always make sure to let ppl understand especially family members that No one is more important to me than my Husband. If they want to piss me off, then don’t talk out the side of our neck to my Husband or abt my Husband. And it’s the same thing with my partners family, he will go to bat for me because we are a package deal.
Important family members have been cut off from us just for thinking they can try us. Some ppl need to learn to tread lightly

Yes. I would never attend an event where my husband isn’t respected. We are a team and family.

I always think it’s important especially if you’re married to have each others backs and defend each other, even if it’s from family. The family you created is top priority.
But I wouldn’t consider us a package deal lol we still do our own things and sometimes we attend family events separately and that’s ok.

Yes, my parents have said things to me about my husband (even though they love him) even if I agree with them, and I’ve had to let them know I support him before them. Like, you don’t get to tell him to get his shit together, I do lol

We're Ant and Dec. Just a couple of wallies that can only be duoed with eachother.

I think it depends what was said

Idk what is meant by "package deal". Were together often but like my close friends can invite me to something and it just be me. Or her friends can invite her to something and it just be her. But if the invite is only to one of us because you got beef with the other then neither of us are attending.

But if you're gonna talk negatively about her, hard no. You can come to me and express a concern or an issue you may have if you're seeking advice on how to like approach her but if you're just gonna talk crap, no.

Would say yes, because when we're getting along, then yes. But my husband is cheating on me, and has had no contact with me since Friday afternoon. So imma have to go with option C, depending on the circumstance.

in our community

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️