It’s a long way off as I’m not due to may, but I’ve been doing the paperwork for my maternity for work and got me thinking about childcare when I go back, anyone work shifts which means the days they require childcare move each week? What’s the best time of childcare for this? Are there nursery’s that are adaptable or is it better going with a child minder?
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Nurserys will take children for the same days each week...they wouldn't be able to manage staff and keep track of when the kids are in otherwise ... I'm not sure about childminders but I'm pretty sure it would be that they'd do set days too because they'll have regular children who go and they can't be out of ratio either etc

There are things such as ‘24 hour nurseries’ which run to help shift workers but I don’t think they are that common unfortunately! You could always ring nurseries/childminders in your area and ask the question, but I’d think that they can’t be that flexible.
My friend used to work shifts and she had to do a mix of babysitters and families help. In the end she submitted a form to her work for fixed days. Legally employers have to consider requests for child friendly hours and days x

You can apply for flexible working for work. I asked for set days each week.
My partner will do all the collection and drops off though as I start to early and finish too late.
None of the nurseries I visited would do flexible days unfortunately.

Your best bet would be to submit a flexi for set shifts/ days. It’s very unlikely you’d find formal childcare that could accommodate days flipping around every week.
Or you could use family/ friends if they’re able to help you out x
So my ex husband and I split earlier this year and we have been working on an alternating weekends type schedule so we both get some time to do whatever and have 1 on 1 time with our 1 year old daughter. (He comes over to my house as he doesnt have his own place with space for her yet)
I went out today for some drinks and said to make her a cheese and spinach omelette with a side of vegetables and chicken for dinner .... I just got home and he told me he gave her chips and part of a saveloy sausage from the chippy... I said that's too much salt for her and he said 'no I didnt put any salt on it' -_-
What would you do in this scenario? I really dont want her eating crap and this isnt the first time he has gone directly against what I've said food wise
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So I’m not sure if it’s just a phase I’m going through or if this is actually happening so please be gentle with me!!
Don’t know if I’m out of love with my husband, falling out of love, or if it even exists in my head anymore. I know I love him but I don’t know if it’s like a best friend love or a love I have because he’s my daughter’s dad… and I’m not exactly sure how to find out.
I also think I have an ick with him, he’s constantly about sex and that’s fine! I’m a horny person but at the same time I don’t want to be asked daily if we can get down with it or if it’s a possibility for the night. I’d rather spontaneous and not trying to promise him something and not know the night outcome because of how the day is….
Any HELPFUL things you can pass along??
Don’t really want to be told to leave him because that really is easier said than done AND we have a good relationship, I just don’t know what’s going on in my head right now!
Not sure if this counts as baby daddy drama but I’m making that my place to post this so don’t get onto me about it😅
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My almost 2 year old started preschool 3 weeks ago and already we have all been sick non stop. I'm extremely sick today, thankfully my husband isn't so bad and has watched the toddler most of the day. Plus every pickup he has an emotional breakdown that just breaks my heart because he misses me so much. Even when he wakes up from sleep sometimes he has a similar mealtdown. It just makes me want to quit so bad. Switch from my current job to random things like crafting and/or nanny again or freelance or anything else because as the title says uuuuuuggggghhhh
I even use to be a preschool teacher but rarely to kids completely new to preschool like this. When does it get better?

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I just fed my 5 month old a small amount of porridge and he very much enjoyed it. I know it’s early but he is showing all the right signs. I’ve only given him porridge as idk what I’m doing can anyone help guide me??
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So we went to this dinner party and everyone was there, some family friends, and my son who's 4 months old, started crying because he's not used to seeing all these people and cried for an hour straight and i left right after, i had fed him just before that, not even mine that it would've digested quickly. He cried halfway in the car, reached home and he slept.
I cried so much in the car after he fell asleep. Idk why? Idk if i felt embarrassed, idk if it was because i was hangry, idk if it was because i felt lonely, idk if it was because it took me time to get ready and i had to come early befor everyone else. I really dk. I came home i cried more and more, until my baby woke up, gave him to my husband and i called my mom like a baby, and ik she must be worried about me now, but if it felt so weird to me.

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