I dont want my daughter going to sleep overs how do I tell her friends Mom this ?

I have a hard time trusting others especially since I have experience with social workers and know abuse is real and can happen. Its fine if others want to do it but it's not a risk I want to take.

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"Thank you for the invite! We don't do sleepovers. How about ____ instead?" A lot of parents will get it. If not, probably not the ideal home to send your kid off to anyway

"Hi Stacey's mum, we aren't comfortable with sleepovers but happy to arrange for something during the day". No need to explain yourself 😘 most mom's would get it.
I personally would never ever let my children sleep over anywhere, you do not know what goes on behind closed doors.

I’m with you on the no sleepovers. For so many reasons. I think you are being smart and protecting her

If the girls are getting together in afternoon /evening, can your daughter hang out until like 7 or 8 pm and you pick her up? She can attend the social part but come back before nighttime. I am with you on “no sleepover”.

My mom didn’t allow us to sleep at anybody’s house if we were invited to one we’d tell her and she’d set up our own little slumber party and sometimes invite our cousins over. I only started sleeping out when I was like 17.

https://youtu.be/n6y6AM5zB3Y?si=xRtZ1MXxVB-qVE8a

Sticko's got good advice for this! I know the theme of the video is more towards the dangers of sleepovers, but he has good advice on how to approach it respectfully with other parents.

I’d do a mixture of A&C. Think its fine to explain you don’t do sleepovers but you’re happy to let her friend stay over at yours if she likes

I’m also not into sleepovers. They can stay out as long as they want but I will always pick them up.

Offer to host sleepovers. She deserves to have fun experiences.

I don’t agree with sleep overs either but I’ve recently heard of “sleepunders” and it’s the same exact thing as a sleep over except all the kids go home at bedtime. But it still gives the kids the opportunity to be in their pjs eat a cute snack and watch a movie together.

You can explain that you don’t want your daughter going to sleep overs then offer to host one at your house instead for your comfort

Be honest with her. We have select people we let our daughters sleepover with. Example: 1 bff lives with her dad every other week. We won't let our girls sleep there since he is single. Just seems weird. Idk. She comes over here. They have another friend we are good with if they go there. That is my youngest at age 10. With my 11yr old she has 2 friends we let her sleepever with out hesitation.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?