Feeling guilty

My daughter is 4 and is getting more into barbies. We bought her a barbie dream camper for Christmas and she got like 3 barbie sets from others for Christmas. She's been playing with it in her room so her brother doesn't try to eat the pieces. It brings me back to when I was little and payed with Barbies. My sister and I would play barbies for hours. I look at her playing alone and wonder if she feels sad. I wish I could've given her a sister to play with. At this point if i had another baby, by the time they'd be old enough she'd be about over barbies. Idk i just feel so guilty. I don't want her depending on me to play with her either because I can't play much when I'm watching her brother (he's very clingy). Idk I'm just having horrible mom guilt and needed to vent.

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Firstly say no to this guilty feeling anywhere it shows up!

Playing alone at that age is honestly a really good thing—it means she’s using her imagination and feels safe and content in her space. That doesn’t equal lonely or sad at all.. sibs aren’t a guaranteed playmate the way we think abd half the time they fight or don’t even want to play the same things. What you’re seeing is actually a healthy, independent kind of play.
You didn’t do anything wrong by having another baby. She’s getting a different kind of childhood, not a lesser one. And having a brother will matter in ways that don’t show up in Barbie play right now.
This feels like mom guilt more than anything—and you’re doing just fine.

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