Looking for guidance from someone in early childhood education

My daughter will be 5 in April. This is her first year in any type of PreK or daycare setting. Today I reached out to her teacher regarding something totally non related but also asked for an update on how she is doing overall. The teacher responded with she is doing well with writing her name and number/letter recognition but is still struggling to play with kids closer her age and would rather play with the younger class ages 2-3. My daughter has an almost 2 year old younger brother and is an extremely reserved and nurturing individual. She absolutely loves to play babies/school/church and more “real” life scenarios. My daughter has told me that the boys like to run and be loud and some of the other girls play things like acting like cats. The teacher said my daughter has a hard time “getting on the other kids level of imagination”. When I said she likes to play more real life things she responded with well the other kids don’t like to play that. I’m having a really hard time as a parent understanding what the teacher is saying is wrong with my daughter and how I can better help my daughter socially.

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Hi 👋 A past super reserved little kid here, how are you doing?

Okay, here first: in my amateur opinion, I don’t think the teacher meant there’s something “wrong” with your daughter. (Or at least they shouldn’t say that, it would be very rude.)

You daughter seem to be a wonderful and patient little kid but she seems to have a great difficulty on connecting with other kid. I used to have the same problem and it was… not very nice. The other kids often thought I was being snobbish when preferring to isolate myself or playing something else, and that didn’t help.

Now older, here’s the advice I can offer: please, encourage your little girl to be open about her preferences. Tell the teacher why she doesn’t play with the other kids more often (the loud noises and the games she’s not used to playing). My hopes is that the teacher listen, understands and tries to find a common ground between her and the students, so they can all find something that they can enjoy together. Or at least-

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

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Shift worker daddies - advice please?

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I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

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