My daughter will be 5 in April. This is her first year in any type of PreK or daycare setting. Today I reached out to her teacher regarding something totally non related but also asked for an update on how she is doing overall. The teacher responded with she is doing well with writing her name and number/letter recognition but is still struggling to play with kids closer her age and would rather play with the younger class ages 2-3. My daughter has an almost 2 year old younger brother and is an extremely reserved and nurturing individual. She absolutely loves to play babies/school/church and more “real” life scenarios. My daughter has told me that the boys like to run and be loud and some of the other girls play things like acting like cats. The teacher said my daughter has a hard time “getting on the other kids level of imagination”. When I said she likes to play more real life things she responded with well the other kids don’t like to play that. I’m having a really hard time as a parent understanding what the teacher is saying is wrong with my daughter and how I can better help my daughter socially.
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Hi 👋 A past super reserved little kid here, how are you doing?
Okay, here first: in my amateur opinion, I don’t think the teacher meant there’s something “wrong” with your daughter. (Or at least they shouldn’t say that, it would be very rude.)
You daughter seem to be a wonderful and patient little kid but she seems to have a great difficulty on connecting with other kid. I used to have the same problem and it was… not very nice. The other kids often thought I was being snobbish when preferring to isolate myself or playing something else, and that didn’t help.
Now older, here’s the advice I can offer: please, encourage your little girl to be open about her preferences. Tell the teacher why she doesn’t play with the other kids more often (the loud noises and the games she’s not used to playing). My hopes is that the teacher listen, understands and tries to find a common ground between her and the students, so they can all find something that they can enjoy together. Or at least-