Anyone here solo/ co parenting? Advice, inspiration welcome
My daughter is two and I was focusing so much on secure attachment parenting, we still breast feed, co sleep and gentle/conscious parenting as much as we can.
But the heartbreak of now parenting in a single parent home keeps hitting me. It’s the ultimate secure attachment goal, to be a family unit. It feel like it’s been stolen from me.
If anyone has any inspiration or stories of their own solo parenting journey I’d love to hear? Also if you have any advice on co-parenting while trying to still create the most secure attachment possible.
I came from a single family home so I know the affects. I try every day to make differences that I didn’t have like, making sure to have family photos in the home still, talking about daddy, saying mummy and daddy love you, still drawing daddy in family pictures when she asks. I understand I can’t project my own pain onto how I show up now as a single mother. ❤️🩹
I also feel like being highly critical of myself and being a perfectionist is why I am now a single mum… it affected our relationship but I was sort of in survival for a while and wish I saw that the family unit was the most important, but I guess attachment patterns in me were at play with subconsciously only seeing my mum and me as our family unit 😢 anyways,thanks for reading if you got this far!
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I am a single mom, I don’t co parent (dad has little interest in being involved) so it’s really hard sometimes. Imo moms are supposed to be the comforting/nurturing ones. With it just being me in the house I also have to be authoritarian (which also is hard because i am naturally not the tough guy. My oldest is almost 4, my youngest is 2 months. It’s been quite a journey, but we are figuring it out. I figured out a way to be both that worked for me. We teach actions have consequences. And the consequences are based off the action. I let the kids go at their own pace when it comes to their dad.
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