Should I let it go?

Is it normal for husband to get upset when dinner is made late? I had a meeting at my son’s school at 6:30pm so it threw off my schedule. He got very upset and then I got very upset cuz I don’t think i deserved that. But maybe it’s normal since it’s still our first year as new parents?

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Umm you didn’t deserve that. Why couldn’t he make dinner ? That’s weird.

He can drive his little butt on over to mcdonalds if he's starving so much he felt the need to lose his temper with you even though you're the one running around doing all the kid stuff AND making dinner. Or like Kathy said, he can get his grown self in the kitchen and make something himself.

No, it's not normal, and it's not okay. It's not 1923. He can make his own stupid dinner, or better yet, make it for all of you or pick something up since you were at a school meeting for your mutual child. This is INSANE.

Not okay, your feelings are completely valid and I agree with the other comments 100 percent.

Honey that’s not normal. Why doesn’t he make dinner since you’re busy with your kids school. I can also just tell that he probably doesn’t give you time for your self or help around the house. Men need to do better!!!

Is he the type that believes women have to cook and stay at home barefoot and pregnant while he works to provide for you? If so he needs a reality check girly.

He should appreciate the fact that you even made him dinner

He is a grown man that can make his own food. You had a meeting and it’s not only your job to make sure a meal is ready. As others have said he could have even got in the car and even got McDonalds or got something delivered. Completely uncalled for

Nope. He's being a **** and needs to apologize. He's overreacting.

Normal is relative. How did it make you feel? Were you comfortable with him doing this, and would you be comfortable with this repeated reaction anytime the schedule is derailed?

If the answer is that it was problematic to you, and made you feel unhappy, I don’t think you should care what is normal for other people. I think you should tell him how you felt when he did [insert specific behaviors] when you were late making dinner as a result of your prior plans. Maybe today was hard for him and he took his anger out at you and will apologize after you tell him you feel hurt. Maybe he won’t. But perhaps you both deserve the repair attempt, at least.

Addressing things reasonably and swiftly before patterns are set and resentment builds is paramount.

Give him some grace because having a new baby is stressful, but also, you didn’t deserve that. Try talking to him. Maybe he had a bad day and he just lashed out? Don’t let it go, but don’t make a giant deal out of it either if things are usually good.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?