Seperation anxiety help

Recently our June toddler has become really hard work when I'm not there. I work 3 days a week and when he wakes up and realises I'm not there he is just screaming and crying for me for hours and hours until my husband can drop him off at nursery. He is also the same at bedtime too as he always wants me to do it but some days I'm not back until after he is asleep as I leave for work at 6am and not back till 8pm.

I don't know why this is happening as he loves spending time with his dad generally and always misses him when he goes to work on my 2 days off. It's just becoming really stressful and making us all miserable as now he is waking up earlier and earlier so we are all exhausted and drained before we have even started work.
It hasn't always been this way and I'm not sure if he is getting really bad separation anxiety now or if it is linked to me being pregnant perhaps? I literally have no idea.

Has this happened to anyone else or does anyone have any advice at all?

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I think thereve been a few mum post similar recently, including myself so you’re speaking for thousands right now who are in the same boat as you lovely.

It’s a normal phase, seperation is meant to increase between 2-3 as they start increasing their independence and realising they can be separable from you.

Also, I am pregnant and my little one does prefer to be around his dad but when he’s not with me he’s always asking where’s mammy or I want mammy. He’s the worst at nursery drop off as I do this still with him, and he cries hysterically when I’m not there.

Could you make like a little ‘miss you book’ so when you’re not around whoever is the main caregiver he’s got photos of the people he loves? Xx

It's good to know it's not just us 🤦🏼‍♀️ the book is a good idea, I'll give anything a go ☺️ thanks xx

When my LO found nursery drop off hard we did a heart on our hands just with some black pen and said if you miss me you can look at your little heart and il be looking at mine, today when I got my nails done she said can we do a little heart just saying in case it’s worth a try

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?