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Gift problem

⚠️ sorry its very long 🥹
I'd like your opinion... I'm married, and my husband's family isn't Christian, but they do celebrate Christmas. In our first year of marriage, I was torn about what to buy my mother-in-law. Honestly, I believe a gift should be valuable, but my husband told me that at Christmas, we buy anything, even socks, as long as it's something simple and funny. But I insisted on buying something nice. We didn't have much money at the time, so my husband told me, "Trust me, my mother doesn't care about gifts, just buy her anything." Finally, he suggested I buy a cheap dress from Shein. I absolutely love Shein and buy everything from there. Anyway, I looked for a dress that cost 13 euros, not exactly cheap, and bought it as a Christmas gift. Her reaction was clear: she didn't like it, but she tried to pretend otherwise.

Last Christmas, we didn't have much money either, and I was pregnant. We hoped what little we had would be enough, but despite that, we bought gifts for everyone, including a large, light shawl for her, which was lovely. The important thing is that she pretended again that she liked it.

A few days ago, I craved sweets from my country because I live in his country and I'm pregnant, as I told you. I spoke with someone who was visiting his family there and would be returning to my country, and I asked him to bring me sweets. He agreed, but my family insisted on sending olive oil. Since my mother-in-law loves the olive oil my mother presses, i agreed. However, the sweets and the bottle of olive oil together were too heavy for him. In the end, I decided that he should bring only the olive oil. I was very happy because it's my mother-in-law's birthday around this time, and she was always asking when my mother could send the olive oil because she had run out.

The important thing is that I was very excited, and in the meantime, my husband was sick and staying with my mother-in-law. When he returned, he told me that my mother-in-law wasn't excited about what we were going to give her for her birthday. She said she was sure it was something from China (meaning Shein), and that the dress and shawl we had bought her were the ugliest gifts ever, and that she hated them intensely, but she had to lie to me.

I was truly shocked because in my country, if someone gives us a gift, we never hate it; on the contrary, we appreciate that the person remembered us, even if the gift is a stone from the street or a stick. I told my husband that the gifts were never my idea, and that we didn't have much money at that time, and everyone knew that. I told him that her not appreciating the gift was a bad thing, and that she might not like olive oil now either. But we agreed not to tell her about the gift until it arrived. Honestly, I felt very sad because I had imagined the sweets I craved while pregnant and preferred to give her the oil that she loves. Also, it wasn't my fault that I bought those Despite all the gifts, she didn't respect us and gave her opinion on the previous gifts in a very rude way. For example, last year for her birthday, I gave her a Korean face cream, and she returned it to me later saying it didn't suit her! If it doesn't suit you, throw it away! Why return the gift to me? Honestly, I'm feeling even sicker and more uncomfortable. I haven't been able to eat or do anything today, and all I can think about these days is what she said. What do you think?