I have a 22 month old boy and I’m due another baby this year. I bought our son a baby doll in hopes it might help him adjust to having a brother later this year.
I’ve been role playing how to care for the toy baby. My son has been pretending to feed the baby, cuddles it and now stating to use language associated with babies. Me and my partner only see this as a positive.
My partners family came over last night and saw our son playing with his doll. They were disgusted to say the least and basically told me that he shouldn’t be playing with dolls as they are girls toys. This spiralled into a whole conversation about how behaviours like this encourage children/young adults to become transgendered. I cannot believe that my in laws said this and have these views when all I wanted to do was prepare my baby boy for his brothers arrival.
My partner was supportive during this conversation but my blood was boiling and I don’t feel like inviting them to our house again.
How do I approach this situation? I now feel like I have to hide toys when they come over next. We have a wooden dolls house and my son likes to play with this too.
Thank you for any advice.
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This is a fantastic way to get him to adjust to a new baby! Not only that you are teaching him different benefits surrounding playing with dolls, I’m certain it teaches them empathy, helps their emotional intelligence and nuturing skills x

Ignore them boys can have dolls if they like my nephew has a doll and he loves plating with it doesn't matter the sex of the child if my daughter wants to play with cars or anything I will let her as its what they want to do. They shouldn't be telling you what to do in your own house you are thinking of your child xx

Honestly, I don’t see the problem at all. Playing with dolls isn’t a “girl thing” – it’s a nurturing thing. You’re literally teaching your little boy how to care, be gentle, feed, cuddle and use kind language. That’s a beautiful quality in any child, especially with a baby brother on the way.
Role play at that age is about learning and understanding the world around them. If anything, you’re helping him prepare for the transition and building empathy. We encourage girls to play with trucks and be strong and independent, so why wouldn’t we encourage boys to practise caring and being loving?
Toys don’t determine someone’s gender identity – love, support and acceptance at home are what shape confident, secure children. It sounds like you and your partner are doing a brilliant job, and your son is clearly thriving.
I wouldn’t be hiding toys in my own home. Your house, your child, your parenting. Keep doing what feels right for your family 🤍

Please don’t hide his toys. It’s his home, he should be able to have his things out and play with them as and when he likes.. he is a baby. The way they feel about it is their problem not yours, and if they can’t keep their thoughts to themselves and have nothing helpful to offer while you are all going through this big transition, they should keep their distance. I’d carry on as you are, it will benefit your son’s wellbeing during this time as welcoming a sibling can come with many big emotions.

My son had a doll and a pram when he was 4..hes a 6ft 15 stone rugby player that loves a good lads holiday 🤣🤣 had had plenty of girlfriends..I think some people are still stuck in the stone age and think it will make boys gay 🤣🤣

Omg what is wrong with people!! You’re literally raising a little boy to hopefully be a good man / husband / dad one day!! Hopefully having an interest in caring for a baby / role play with this will help him massively in the future IMO.

I brought my baby boy a baby doll when he reached for it in a shop. Nothing wrong with a boy having a doll.