I just need to vent!
I’m so frustrated, my ex partner and father of my child who I left last year due to abuse getting worse and he’d been cheating on me and breaking things in front of our then 11 month old, and I’d dint want her growing up thing that’s what love is! Well he got arrested because he could not stop harassing and abusing me after I left him, he got released on bail which has recently ended! He has since threatened several times to take me to court, report me for different things, has told me that she doesn’t need to go to nursery and a whole bunch of other stuff. He has seen her 10 times since I left him, constantly bails on FaceTime calls with her and I feel like I’m going insane because he makes me feel like everything I’m doing is wrong, he claims I’m alienating him as a Parent, yet I haven’t stopped contact and haven’t been the one to cancel FaceTimes unless it’s in the best interest of my child that day or he has failed to give a time he will call etc.
he’s said he’s going to take me to court and the court will see what I’m doing but I’m the only one who actually raises her, he doesn’t provide for her care, he owe a lot in child maintenance that is still going up and yet he demands weekends when he doesn’t have a bedroom for her and has admitted he has no intention of sticking to her routine.
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Agree with above. He’s making empty threats because it’s his way of trying to control you and make you scared. If he mentions taking you to court, welcome it! Say yes please, can I have your solicitor’s details please so I can pass it on to mine? 🤣 Watch him shrivel up because he’s not expecting it.
As a matter of fact, Google “grey rock method” and use it when dealing with him. Get a solicitor yourself and send your ex a one time message stating that you will be blocking them on everything including social media and if they want to discuss your child, he can download a co-parenting app approved by the courts. And then block him. Visits, phone calls etc will be organised by the court when he starts co-operating. If he misses days/calls, make a log of it and refer it back to the court.
Hopefully he’ll get bored of being a half-assed parent and become a full-time deadbeat dad and piss off and leave you both alone for good when he sees he has no control over you anymore.
Yea go grey rock on him. And if need be require him to communicate solely through text or email. And above all… PRAY. Ask God for his intervention and invite his angels to do his bidding.
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