Why does everyone think you want more than one baby?
I am 21 weeks pregnant and am sick of people asking me when I’ll have another child. My unborn son isn’t even here yet and quite frankly I don’t think I’ll want more than one. I want to be able to provide everything for my little boy and think 2 kids would stretch my husband and me too thinly. It’s just this assumption everywhere that we would have at least two babies. I genuinely think one baby is what will be right for me but that’s up to me if I do change my mind. Blows my mind how everyone thinks your pregnancy and life choices are up for debate or conversation. I want to be able to still have a life with my son in it where I still get time for myself and I’m not just seen as “mum” I’m so excited to be a mum but think all these feelings can coexist without making me a bad person.
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Honestly I’ve tried to work this out for a long time! Like why is two plus kids default (and therefore the societal expectation). I think it’s because years and years ago people had multiple kids for various reasons that don’t apply today, but that shaped the future definition of what a ‘traditional family’ is. Most people blindly follow traditions because they’re scared they will miss something if they don’t. People also like being told what makes them happy as it’s easier than working it out for themselves. That’s why many people are wired to believe you should have more than one child to be truly happy. I think many people convince themselves on a second based on this pressure rather than actually wanting another. If you want another someday that’s fine and if you don’t - that’s also fine! So many more families are one and done these days, it’s becoming the the new norm x
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