If your having your 2nd/3rd baby what’s something you’ll do different this time?

This is my 4th and probably won't breastfeed for so long this time, I only really plan to do a few weeks/a month this time so my partner can be more involved in the feeding 😄

I will prioritise myself more post birth, less visitors, shower daily (sounds easier than it is), won’t rush to leave the house, make sure I’ve prepped enough meals and actually eat them.

I’ll put less pressure on myself to breastfeed. I’ll do as long as I can whilst it’s still convenient for us as a family and stop as soon as it isn’t.

Labour I’ll be demanding an epidural from the off 🤣. There’s no prize for tolerating the pain at the end of it. I have no idea why I let myself struggle to the point of exhaustion for so long during my last Labour.

With my first, there was meconium when my water broke (she pood inside) so the midwife wanted to monitor the baby’s heartbeat throughout the labour and every time I got into an upright, forward, open position (UFO), she made me move because the monitor wasn’t picking up the baby. I changed into all of the positions I could think of whilst I’m 10cm dilated and trying to push but midwife was so unhelpful and kept telling me to lie on my back to push. Eventually I gave in and pushed on my back for 2.5hrs and baby got stuck so had to do episiotomy and forceps delivery and get epidural after all of that pushing. This time, I will really advocate to push in the position I want and not give in. I’ve had pelvic floor problems from my first delivery which is most likely caused by the long pushing and assisted delivery.

Honestly I’m not going to be timing wake windows and tracking my baby’s feed to the ounce and minute, it was completely pointless the first time, if my baby is hungry they can eat and if they’re tired they can sleep, I make so much extra work for myself constantly worrying about getting everything exactly how it should be that it made me and baby miserable