In laws are so frustrating (sorry kind of long)

Okay. I could go on a whole tangent on everything my in laws have said to me since I got engaged to their son, but it’s late and I’m tired. I just needed to vent about what just happened. My husband doesn’t listen to me when I tell him not to ask his parents for help with anything because they’re the types to turn around and throw it in your face that they helped you. He had asked them for a small loan last year (I told him not to but whatever) and apparently his mom keeps a literal notebook with whatever money she loans out to ALL of her kids and what they owe her (which I just find weird because my family is NOT like that with each other, like if you need help we help??) anyways she even included this hammock that she bought for me stating “I know you wanted one!” And I was like “wow thank you, you shouldn’t have!” And she ADDED that to the list of money we owe her 🫩 anyways we’ve had to pay a couple things and now his dad messaged us both saying we are OVERDUE on payments and to hurry and send him money because my husband isn’t being a “man” (yes he actually put that in quotes” and then went on to say how they were the only ones to help us when no one else would. Now I know this is a low blow towards me and my family but my parents don’t have good jobs like they do and they literally live paycheck to paycheck. It’s just so frustrating and I wish I could cut them off. My son loves them and he’s only one but I’m so tired of the disrespecting me and my husband (their son!!!) I feel like they shouldn’t get the privilege to be around MY baby when they talk to us so ugly all the time.

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If he is overdue for payments… did he communicate that? I understand you’re disappointed and i agree with u not to borrow from them because it just sounds like the type of energy that i wouldnt want. I would stay out of it… and let your husband deal with it because you told him not to for this reason. So no need for u to hear anything or get involved when u tried to warn your husband. But… if he overdue and never communicated thats an issue.

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aren’t like that at all :/ like if I had to pay them back they wouldn’t be sending ugly texts saying we are overdue and to hurry up and that my husband isn’t a “man” I just find it demeaning and manipulative

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